Post # 1
I currently have two Co-MOH’s. One is hinting that she doesn’t want to give the speech. Which one should stand next to me?
Should I have the one not givng the speech stand next to me and then the other give the speech?
Also, I want to add something to their dresses or their look to signify that they are my MOHs, but nothing too overdone that it distracts away from the other girls.
(My girls will be wearing pink dresses, wrist corsages, and carrying parasols.)
Post # 3
I have 2 MOH’s and similar scenario. I invited them both to give a speech but will not require it of both; as for who stands next to me, I chose my cousin as she’s family – the other Maid/Matron of Honor is a very dear friend. Other things I considered were just going by height to make it ‘fair’ versus just picking out of a hat. I don’t think this is as big of a deal as us brides think it to be – they are probably happy to support us on our wedding day and will not be offended by small decisions like these (I hope!)
Post # 4
I was one of 2 MOHs in my friend’s wedding a few years ago. The other Maid/Matron of Honor really wanted to give a speech, and I didn’t really have a strong preference either way, so it ended up that I just didn’t give one, and it turned out fine.
My friend basically did the same thing as PP suggested, which was to go by height (neither of us were family; we were both her close friends). Neither of us got our feelings hurt because both of us got to do something special to us: she made the speech, and I got to hold the rings and do a reading at the ceremony. Whatever you decide, your MOHs are there to support you, and they should be happy to do what makes you happy!
As far as suggestions for signifying your MOHs, I normally would suggest slightly different flowers, an extra accessory of some sort, like a different piece of jewelry, a hairpiece, or something special on their parasols. Good luck!
Post # 5
I like your height idea! 🙂 Thanks!
One of my MOH’s actually brought this up…she seems more concerned about these details than me! haha
Post # 6
thanks for the suggestions! I like the hairpiece idea…just need to think of what will go
Post # 7
You could also have them wear sashes around their waists or put little dangling ribbons on their parasols