(Closed) 2 days until the wedding and things are going wrong! (long vent)

posted 9 years ago in November 2009
Post # 3
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Awwwww, I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this before your wedding, that is probably not what you were hoping for in the days leading up to it!

As far as the Bridesmaid or Best Man w/ strep, the good news is if she goes to the dr and her strep test is positive, she will get antibiotics that will make her feel soooo much better in less than 24 hours, I know bc I had strep last year and it was literally overnight how quick the antibiotics worked…

It must be frustrating to not feel loved and supported by your BM’s and it is within your right to tell them so…However, you’re also two days out from your wedding so that might not be your best option…Hopefully you can get everything done with your one or two BM’s who are able and willing and then just relax and enjoy your wedding, it’s so soon!!! 

Good luck! 

Post # 4
1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time!

If it’s just going to be one additional person coming to the reception, try not to worry.  Invariably, someone doesn’t show up to the wedding that you’ve already paid for, and caterers normally make a certain percentage extra to deal with things like dropped plates, etc.

I’m glad you’ve found a backup for the reader BM!  Is it a bridesmaid’s luncheon today?  Make it into a working lunch, with folding, assembling, etc.  Have you made it clear to your BMs that you NEED help tonight?

Are there any tasks that can be cut from your to-do list, to simplify?  I had plans for a pretty ribbon board for my escort cards, but there ended up just not being time (I was travelling to the US from England, so it’s not like I could do it in advance and bring it on the plane.)  I ended doing a VERY simple version of what I’d planned, and you know what, it worked out beautifully.  Simplify, simplify!  If some of the tasks are things like tying on ribbon, well, skip the ribbon and save your sanity!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck!

Post # 5
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

((hugs)) I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this.  That’s not that way it’s to go.  Try not to let this get to you after all it’s a wedding, the marriage is the bigger event!  At least you know, who you can depend on and who you can’t. 


Just try to stay positive and keep thinking about you’re about to marry the man you love!


Good luck with everything and I hope you have a great day tomorrowWink

Post # 6
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

*hugs*  Try to be positive, (You’re getting married!!!! Yay!!!)  It sucks that the BM’s aren’t helping you out, and that you have a sick Bridesmaid or Best Man, but maybe they will all come through for you?  If not, try to stay sane, and see if there is anything on your to-do list that you could possibly cut back on.  Congratulations and good luck!

Post # 7
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

the good news is, if she has strep and gets antibiotics, she’ll feel better fairly quickly, PLUS you’re usually not contagious after 24 hours of starting the drugs, so it’s a strong possibility that bm will make it ๐Ÿ™‚

i’m sorry you’re having this stress close to your big day. do you have any family members that can help out?

Post # 8
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would explain to my BMs that I NEEDED help, I wasn’t just looking to hang out. Maybe they thought you just wanted more of their time and don’t know you NEED help? I’d ask them again, but be clear that you need this from them. Also, do ask other friends and family members! If someone asks if you need help- say yes!

I would simplify too. Anything you can just not do? Or can you do something in such a way as to make it have fewer steps/require fewer supplies, etc? Feel free to skip things- no one will know but you and your lessening stress levels! ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck! Congratulations!

Post # 10
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yup!  You ARE getting married today! woohoooo!!!!!!  I know you’ll miss the girls but try and cheer up and enjoy the day.  Just think, in just a few hrs there’s only one person you’ll really need and he’ll be at your side forever! I wish you all the best!

Post # 12
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can’t wait to see your photos! Glad it all worked out!

Post # 14
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m so glad to hear it ended up going well!

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