Post # 1
I live in California. I became engaged 7 months ago on 08/2011 and plan to marry on 11/2012 in Cancun, MX. My uncle recently became engaged 02/2012 and plan to marry 12/2012 exactly a month apart. I was genuingly happy for him becoming engaged but I had no idea he planned to wed right after me. I’m feeling that he is being inconsiderate not just for me but for our family that lives in the east coast. My “main” concern is that since I’m having a destination wedding and not many family members that can attend to begin with. The few that can go to my wedding will not go after all since it will be less expensive for our famiy to come to California then to Cacun and spend on hotels, food, activities etc…. not to mention that I feel that my aunts and uncles would logicly prefer to attend their brother’s wedding then me as their niece. Also wether our weddings be a month a part in the same town I highly doubted that our family will stay in California for a month nor travel twice to attend both weddings. I never thought I would be in this situation but I’m feeling pretty upset! Am I wrong, over-reacting, or what? All I know is that I wouldn’t do that to someone nor put family to chose! Any advice is greatly appreciated it. Thank You.
Post # 3
I don’t have any advice for you, but wanted to bump in case other bees had some ideas!
Has your uncle reserved a venue or paid any deposits? Is it worth talking to him about your concerns? I’m so sorry you have to add this added stress into your wedding planning!
BUt, for what it’s worth, if I had to pick a vacation to combine with a wedding, I’d totally pick Cancun over California. Just saying.. 🙂
Post # 4
I think you are overreacting because your weddings are a month apart. I can understand your worry about certain family members choosing his wedding over yours. Especially since you are having an expensive destination wedding, you mentioned that relatives might not come because of the cost. I’d like to think that relatives choose each wedding they will attend without comparing it to the other and I don’t think your Uncle meant to put you in a bad situation by choosing this date.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I don’t think you need to worry about these- they’re a month apart. I’ve gone to two out of state weddings (requiring taking off work) in the same month.
I agree with monkeyface: I’d like to think that relatives choose each wedding they will attend without comparing it to the other and I don’t think your Uncle meant to put you in a bad situation by choosing this date.