Post # 1
I’m having a very intimate 40ish person wedding with no alcohol or dancing. The wedding will be on a weekday in July as well.
I couldnt afford the venue for very long so it looks like our reception will only be able to be 2 hours. Do you think this is too short?
We are only having hor derves and cake.
Please let me know what you all think!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
I think it will be just fine. What time of day is your reception planned for?
Post # 3
KiwiDerbyBride : it’s a 7pm ceremony on a Wednesday night. I could extend the reception potentially, but I doubt very many people will want to stay past 10 pm on a work night. I’m just not sure!
Post # 4
If your reception is during a meal time, you need to serve a meal. Apps and cake won’t cut it. Either move up the time of your wedding to afternoon, or serve a meal!
Post # 5
People likely won’t have a chance to eat dinner before your wedding because they’ll be getting ready and traveling to the ceremony. I’d be aggravated if I took off work early (which many people might have to), stayed out late (10 pm is late for me on a work night), and then ended up starving on top of that. Unless your hor dourves are heavy enough to make a meal then you need to reconsider logistics.
Post # 6
I don’t think 2 hours is a problem for just cake and apps. What I DO think is a problem is having a reception during dinnertime and not serving a meal.
Post # 7
You are brave to do this. I would be really upset if someone did this to me. I will remember your wedding for a long time, not for good reasons.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
2 hours is fine, and I understand that you have the start time at 7 to try and give people extra time so maybe they don’t have to take a day off of work. I agree with PPs that unless it’s heavy apps, people are going to end up very hungry as they likely won’t have eaten since they’re lunch break at work. I’d either move the time later (I think making it earlier will just make it more difficult for people to get there, and making it later will give people a chance to eat beforehand) or serve a meal/very heavy apps.
Post # 9
Without alcohol and dancing, two hours is more than sufficient. But make sure you have LOTS of apps, because most of your guests might have to come from work and/or not have time to eat before and will be starving.
Post # 10
It is ok as long as guests know it all beforehand. I would be upset about no food, no dancing, and such short reception if I weren’t told beforehand. People need to make sure they eat before and are not expecting a party. For example, someone could take a whole next day off from work because they expect to stay up late etc.
Also are people traveling?
If I were in a different city I probably wouldn’t bother coming and would appreciate the details in advance.
Post # 11
Check in with your restaurant to make sure doing apps is actually cheaper than plated meals or a buffet. Quite often, the apps become the more expensive option because you have to order so many to ensure there is enough food
if your reception is at 7, you really should be providing a dinnertime meal.
Post # 12
My guestlist consists of only my closest family and best friends who all live in the area. I would consider the apps to be heavy each person costs about $30 dollars a plate.
Carmelized onion tart with spanish olive and feta cheese
seasonal fruit plate
Fresh vegetable display with herb dip
gourmet cheese display with crackers
cold smoked salmon and cucumber salad with lemon and dill
coffee, tea, and punch
Cake and cupcakes
I haven’t met with the caterer yet, so I can change the food I’m offering if it’s not enough. My entire guestlist will know what I am serving as well. About half of my guestlist doesn’t work either (grandparents etc)
Do I need to add more? Because I will! I don’t want to upset my guests. And there’s no drinking because the majority of my family and friends doesn’t.
Post # 13
Also my reception will be at 8! The ceremony is at 7 followed by a 30 minute cocktail type hour.
Post # 14
partyof2 : Thanks for your input! I never thought of the fact that appetizers could be more expensive than a plated dinner. Ill check with them when we meet to go over the menu.
Post # 15
That really doesn’t sound like enough food to me. If you’re going to have your wedding at 7pm and you’re only serving apps and cake I wouldn’t expect people to stay the whole two hours without dancing or alcohol. If it were me I’d be gone to go find dinner because work the next morning, I wouldn’t even hang around until 10 because I’m not grabbing dinner that late. This sounds aggravating for your guests, they may end up waiting around for real food that never comes.