Post # 1
Let me preface this by saying my wedding will be small and simple. No dancing (no space, my family isn’t a fan), no alcohol (Sunday 2pm wedding, my family is not a fan). We are getting married in front of an old antebellum like home. Guests will sit along the brick walkway and I will be walked up by my mom and the party and FH will be lined up on the beautiful porch. Ceremony will seriously take like 20 minutes max. Hopefully 15. Not a fan of candle ceremony, might do sand, but not sure. Looking for something else. There won’t be any readings by anyone other than the officiant. After the ceremony, guests will go up into the house and immediately start fixing their plates. I’m not worried about who eats first. Me and Fiance will come around and enter through the back and into the room where our cake and the food is. We can cut the cake then or wait, but since our guests are eating outside I don’t want them to have to come back in if they want to grab the cake then. (while guests are inside, I think I’m going to pay my two cousins to move ceremony chairs to the tables that are off to the side of the yard. May rent enough chairs for both, but if we could do this it’d save about $100.) so as far as traditions, all we will have left is the bouquet and garter toss. And the send off. I feel eating (light finger foods), tosses, and hanging out with my ~100 guests can happen within 1.5 hrs. Am I wrong?
The reason for the time constraint is we are getting married on a Sunday and many ppl will be coming from church. Wanted to give them time to make it from church. So, starting at 2. (could change to 1:30, but my mom and aunts will be rushed like crazy. They are doing my cake. They can set the cake up before the wedding, so I guess they wouldn’t have a ton of stuff to do. Would 1:30 be better? also, would I have to feed lunch if it’s earlier than 2?)
We must leave by 4 to make it to the airport so we can have 1hr to check in. My Fiance is adamant that this is necessary. He also insists that we get on the plane that night, and he booked the latest flight. If it were up to me alone, I’d sleep and catch the first am flight, but with his work schedule he wants to use every moment possible for the honeymoon 🙂
So, to recap, in case I lost you…
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Does this seem like it will work with all pics before? Should I move it up to 1:30?
And if you are worried about our 12 person bridal party being bored, we are going out for drinks the Friday before so they can get their alcohol crazy on.
Post # 4
It kind of seem like your rushing it. I mean if you dont want to dance or anything then yeah i think it will work in that time frame.
Post # 5
It use to be that most weddings were this way and I see nothing wrong with you having it like this! Actually, I would prefer to go to a wedding that doesn’t take up the whole day/evening. My DH’s cousin had a punch and cake reception (no dancing) and I think their timeline was exactly like yours.
For the ceremony, if you want to add something where you don’t really have to do much…we added this into ours:
Post # 6
It would be a good idea to give yourself some ‘buffer’ time somewhere.
Post # 7
I think it depends on your region and what’s acceptable. If this is what’s done in your area on a Sunday, then sure, it’s fine. But, by me, a 1.5 – 2 hour wedding/reception is unheard of and would be met with raised eyebrows.
Post # 8
Every church wedding I’ve ever been to was like this. Ours isn’t at a church but we are following the same schedule.
Post # 10
I also had a small wedding with family only… It was in a church and lasted about the same amount of time… We didn’t do dancing or drinking either… A wonderful day it was!
Post # 11
Yay! So should I keep it at 2? We ordered invites but I requested a sample to be here in a few days so I can change the time if y’all think it would be worth the rush before.
Post # 12
I can’t say for you but I can say for me the day did not feel rushed in any way at all… We didn’t even have a time frame because we could use the Church all day if we wanted… We had the reception there and all together with the ceremony it only lasted like 2 hours… 🙂
Post # 13
I think this is way too short. If there were fewer guests, it might work, but there’s no way you can talk to 100 guests in 1.5 hours… that’s less than a minute per person, which isn’t really acceptable.
Post # 14
This seems so sad to me. This is such a special day in your life. why would you want to rush it. 2 hours is shorter than most movies these days, (to put in in perspective of just how short it is).
Even without any dancing or drinking, I think you’ll need, and ultimately want more time to socialize with your guests and just revel in the happiness. Think about it like a party. Have you ever left a party or a dinner party after an hour and a half?
Post # 15
personally I would change it to 1:30, people can go to the earlier church service that week if they need to, and when I worked at a bakery we had everything ready for wedding cakes the night before all we had to do was stack them, Is that what they are trying to do or are they doing the whole thing between church and ceremony?
I personally LOVE short and simple weddings but I don’t want you to feel rushed out the door on your big day!
Post # 16
The rehearsal is at the same house, so my family can have the cake at the venue the night before. They can stack it the next morning before church, that’s no problem. My mom said 2 would be better than 1:30 because of ppl coming from where they live (1 hr drive, church ends around 11:45). There aren’t many places near me with “early” services. It’s mostly small churches with only 1 service. They will go to a church in the town we are getting married in, but won’t be done til around 11:30 at the earliest. I figured all pics with my family could happen from then til 1:30, then we would wait for guests and begin at 2. His family is doing the food, they will be there that morning, church isn’t a problem for them. All their pics and my wedding party pics can happen while everyone is at church.
I’m seeing this is really regional. Honestly, more ppl have short weddings here. If I had gone with my gut, we would have eloped and been husband and wife by now. We really want to just go on the honeymoon. I feel it will be ok. Worst thing that could happen, is we end up staying longer, miss our flight, have to spend the night in a hotel and catch the first flight that next morning.