(Closed) 2 in a half months

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 1
Member
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

hi ladies. I am getting married September 13th and i cant believe that it is almost 2 months until the wedding. It is so exciting but yet at the same time its like omg i am getting married. I have pretty much everything done but i am still like freaking out not having alot done. I just have small things to get. Another thing is my bridal shower is in august and i cant believe it is almost a month away. I found out a month ago that in september i will not have a job anymore, where i work they need to cut back on employees. It kind of sucks because then my husband will have to support us until i find another job. Anyways on to a more shocking moment. My mother in law planned my bridal shower. She sent out the invitations and my grandma saw that i am registered at target and walmart and well im not. I told my soon to be mother in law that i wasnt registered at any stores for the wedding or shower. because my fiance and i have alot of things that we would get as gifts. Another reason to is i really dont know what we want for gifts if i register.  I called her about it and she said that oh yeah i didnt want you to know i did it for you i was like WHATT!!!!!!!! . I got a call from 2 people today saying i tried to go to target and get you a gift you wanted but it says you are registered but i have nothing on my list. My STBMIL told me that she didnt want me to find out ebcause she doesnt want me finding out what people get me. I thought i had to go and register for things i wanted and not her just registering me and have nothinng on list?? I am kind of upset about this that she did that.  How would you ladies feel??

Post # 3
Member
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

This seems strange.  Your Future Mother-In-Law should have been up front with you before sending the invites out.  At this point you may have to register for some items to avoid further confusion.  I suggest you do it sooner rather than later.

This sounds awful and I’m so sorry you have been put through this.

Post # 4
Member
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

P*SSED! Tell her to back off. I mean, I know you can’t lol, but I know you want to! Every bride who registers knows what they are getting, and any bride who doesn’t usually wants cash or specifies no gift. She needs to get over this, because you are supposed to be getting the things YOU want, not the things she wants for you.

Post # 5
Member
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well first things first – what do you think her intentions were? To be kind and helpful or pushy? I’d be BS if I thought she was being pushy, but less angry if she was just kind but misguided. Maybe you could also just apologize to shower guests and let them know there was some confusion that you didn’t register and that "their presence is present enough".

Incidentally I think this registering issue is a generation thing.  I – like you – have what I need. My Dad and Stepmom registered for things like waterford crystal glasses when they married in their 40s.  That was their perogative but frankly I think I’m asking enough of my guests to come to my wedding. My Mom and Stepmom were really pushy about my registering and I finally just had to tell them to drop it.

 

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