2 Maids of Honor

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

merrbear19 :  It’s certainly your wedding and therefore your choice, but it’s still a recipe for drama and disaster. Weddings have enough drama as it is, don’t bring it upon yourself. Have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

merrbear19 :  I would take them both out together and ask them

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Just have all bridesmaids? 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Just have bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor. A friend of mine asked two friends to be bridesmaids but failed to mention to one of them she was second Maid/Matron of Honor, she found out through passing and it was just awkward and weird. Maybe if you handled it better and asked them both together so he’s clear from the start there will be two that would be better, but in my opinion being one of two bridesmaids is just as special as being one of two MOH’s 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I was one of two MOHs in my best friends wedding. She had a pretty big bridal party so 2 of us taking up the job didn’t look or feel weird/uneven.

We are a trio, however, and the three of us have been best friends for about 15 years. She obviously didn’t want to choose between us which worked perfectly fine! No drama, it was great to get to plan everything for my bff with my other bff. She asked us together, too.

I would suggest taking them out together to ask, since they are acquaintances. This will also give them more of a chance to bond. Just be open about the fact they they both mean a lot to you and you would love it if they could share the position. If they care for you, they shouldn’t mind. Further, only you really know them on a personal level, so only you can gauge if they’d be ok with this kind of arrangement and take it from there.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Here there are usually 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and no bridesmaids. I don’t see how that causes more drama unless the people involved are dramatic.But then again I don’t see why bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor has to be separated by a title. But please note that I’m not an american so my views are different on the subjects.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

If you are SURE you want both girls to be Maid/Matron of Honor, ask them together!  It’ll be less awkward that way 🙂 

I was going to have 2 MOHs but I was asking them separately. After I asked the first one I decided to have the second girl just be a bridesmaid. I chickened out of explaining to my first Maid/Matron of Honor that there would be a second and in that moment I realized that the first girl I asked really should be my only Maid/Matron of Honor. Overall I’m happy with my decision.

Also, having 2 MOHs is really common, and not all bridal parties are full of drama!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

merrbear19 :  as others have suggested, if you have your heart set on 2 then I would ask them together this where there is no ambiguity. I hope they can work together as a team to help your special day be great!

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