Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
So, for years now I have wanted my best friend to be my maid of honor. She has been my best friend for almost 15 years, and she knows me bettere than anyone, with the exception of my Fiance.
Well, when I first started talking about making her my Maid/Matron of Honor to my family (mom, aunts), everybody put a guilt trip on me, saying that I should ask my only sister instead. Her and I get along, but she doesn’t know me as well as my friend does. She is also 17.
I already asked my sister, but am feeling annoyed I let myself be bullied into picking her. I know my best friend will do the majority of the work anyways, so would it be acceptable to make her maid of honor too? I don’t think I’ll have any other bridesmaids. Would it be weird? Would it be offensive to my sister?
Post # 3
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Newbee
Is your friend married?? I made my best friend my maid of honor and my fiance’s sister who I’m really close with my matron of honor with no bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
No. I will only be 22 when I get married, and I’m the first of my friends to get engaged.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
@FutureMrsShute: This is exactly what a friend of mine did. She had her sister be her Maid of Honor and her best friend was the Matron of Honor. The best friend had most of the duties that go with the title, though.
Post # 6
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Newbee
If you’re not having bridesmaids, then I think this is fine. Or you could have your bff as your Maid/Matron of Honor and your sister as a bridesmaid? Does it really matter to your sister or is it just the pressure from your family members?
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I had 2 MOHs and it worked perfectly. I think that’s what you should do, especially since you seem to feel pretty strongly about wanting your best friend in that position.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I’m having two maids of honor and no bridesmaids. My fiancé is having two best men and no groomsmen, too.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Ask both! That’s what I did. Although I am close to my sister I’m JUST as close to my BFF. They both deserved the title/honor so I gave it to both.
Post # 10
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Wannabee
@nutMeg13 I was bullied and guilted as well into a similar situation and it really sucks! I also wanted my best friend for 18 years to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and I thought it would be a great selection because I have two sisters and I figured they could just be each others MOH’s when the time comes for them to get married and my sisters could just be in the wedding party. Simple right? Yeah, no! My mom and my sisters had other ideas for my wedding. I got guilted into having BOTH my sisters as my MOHs by both my sisters, my mom and even my fiance guilted me. I’m only having four girls in my wedding party and I wanted to keep things small and simple. I know my friend is going to do most of the work as I am closer to her and not very close to my sisters so I feel very bad not giving her the “honor” even though she completely understands.
My advice is if you already told your sister she could be maid of honor then leave it alone because it may cause other issues to undo it. Plus, if it keeps peace between you two and with your family its probably best to just keep the peace for one day. Lets face it, the wedding is just a glorified, expensive party anyway. Also, I’m sure your friend is understanding and would be more than happy to plan your other parties and extras because she cares about you regardless if she has the “title” of maid of honor or not. Also, keep in mind if you and your husband to be having kids, she could be the God Mother!!! If your sister gives you a problem, just tell her she is the AUNT plus she got to be maid of honor! 🙂
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I have 2. So far it’s been great…but they really haven’t had to do much. lol!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
My sister wants to be my Maid/Matron of Honor soooo bad. I guess she already has gone on a bunch of websites all about being a good Maid/Matron of Honor.
I think today I am going to ask my BFF to be my other maid of honor.
But thank you everybody for the advice. I just did not know whethere this would be too unusual, although maybe I should stop caring about whats unusual?
Post # 13
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Helper bee
I’m in the same situation as you.. I am 22 and the second of my friends to get married, and I have had the same best friend for literally my entire life.. I knew that she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor all along, but then I got pressured to have my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor.. So I just am having 2 MOHs, with the knowledge that my best friend is kind of like my “real” Maid/Matron of Honor I guess? I don’t see a problem with having two!! But it is your wedding, and you should have who you want as Maid/Matron of Honor..
Post # 14
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Busy bee
I have two sisters and they will both be my Maid/Matron of Honor. (actually Matrons…) and we have all been each other’s MAIDS of honor. Go for it.
Plus, you need someone over 18 or 21 for bachelorette purposes. 😉
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
@SFreeman2187: Yes! Especially since I want to do a wine tatsing tour for my bachelorette!
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
IF we have a bigger ceremony (over eloping which I would so rather do anyway), I would ask my sister and my best friend and would consider them both maids/matrons of honor. They are both equally important to me and I would want them both standing with me with the same amount of importance.