- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So its exactly 2 months before my wedding and i have so excited all along. Planning has been great and fun and i am so happy to finally be getting married and to my best friend…
However I just found out that this whole time my fiance has felt rushed. We dates 2 years before getting engaged. Lived together for 7 months before also. He proposed in May and we set the date for the following June. He agreed to the date. But now tells me he did it because he wanted his grandfather to be there because he was diagnoses with cancer and ended up passing away in February. He has shown signs of depression which has been a result of combo of things and all along i thoght it was because of his job which has been screwing with him on giving him fulltime. He says he doesnt feel our relationship is the same as is used to be. He still loves me but that things have changed. He wants to be with me and says he can be happy again like he used to. He doesnt want to hurt me and I dont want to lose him but it isnt healthy for us if he isnt 100% happy.
What should i do?! now i dont feel the same about continueing with wedding plans. Not knowing if he is going to end things or not. Im trying everything I can to spark things up and show that we really havent changed as a couple. That overtime relationships shift to getting comfortable so couples dont tend to do exactly the same things they once did in the very beginning. We are going to a couples counseling tomorrow for some advice.
I feel like his depression with his job, worrying about money, feeling alittle rushed are all reasons that he is taking it out on it being us. THis should be the happiest time of our lives and i cant believe this is happening to me 2 months before my wedding. How can i call it off now! but how can i marry someone that may not be 100% happy being with me!