Post # 1
Hear me out first! I would like some honest feedback on if would be bad etiquette.
Originally, one of my best friends (a male) was not going to be able to make it to our wedding because he would be deployed. I have recently learned that he will not be deploying, and he may be able to make it here for the wedding. I would love for him to stand up next to me as I get married. I’m not worried in the least about how it would “look” to have a man on the “female” side.
Is it too close to the wedding date to ask him and make this change? My worry would be that he may see it as an afterthought. I know he wouldnt, but in the back of my mind I would be worried he did, if that makes sense.
Post # 2
Tell him exactly that! That you wanted him in the wedding all along, but thought he would be deployed. That you are happy he will be able to be there, and would he like to be a member of the wedding party.
It isn’t an afterthought in this circumstance.
Post # 3
I think if you want him standting with you, you should ask him. Since he was supposed to be deployed, and is now going to be around, I would guess that he would understand the situation and also be honored that you want him involved.
My Fiance added one of his friends later in the game, and they were honored to be asked, and did not take offense that it was later than the other groomsmen.
Post # 4
Nope. Give him those reasons and ask him. Your reasons are absolutely valid and since you didn’t think he would be there you didn’t ask him. I say go for it.
Post # 5
Talk it over with him and see, and don’t worry about guys on girls side, I have a maid and man of honour, my two best friends. Screw what’s normal!