Post # 1
I needed to vent to some people that understand. I’m two months out from the wedding and my stress level seems to be rising and rising. I was in a bad mood yesterday because I spent all day doing wedding things and when I finished, it seemed like I hadn’t even made a dent. I’m getting married eight hours away, which is where my family lives, because they said they’d be able to help more with the planning. Now I am feeling resentful because nobody is helping and I’m planning everything myself – 8 hours away. I am so grateful for the big beautiful wedding we will have, but I am starting to feel bad because I am looking forward to life returning to normal – with no favors to worry about, caterers to confirm, dresses to fit into, guest lists to tally or thank you notes to write. Am I the only one?
Post # 3
Umm ditto. I’m having a rough day too. I feel like I’m swimming upstream this week for sure. Deep breaths. And maybe a nap. Everything feels like it’s getting on my last nerve today.
Sorry your family hasn’t been that much of a help. People are always so well intentioned but often don’t follow through and it’s hard to put up with the disappointment. Maybe you could delegate specific tasks to people. I know my BMs and family want to help, but unless I tell them “You do this“, it’s not going to happen. They can’t read my mind. I have the mental list and know everything that needs to be done and how it should be done. I’m a little type A, I don’t expect everyone else to be!
Post # 4
@Bakerella, sorry you’re having a tough time too! Good idea about the delegating. I think I just get frustrated because people always tell me “don’t worry about it! enjoy it!” yet they don’t seem to realize that planning takes A LOT of work, and it’s not always as easy as just trying not to “worry” about it. I’m also a little type A and definitely have a “vision” for how I want things. Fi and I had a good discussion and he’s going to try to start helping out a little more.. if anything to prevent me from being crazy mega-bitch in these last two months, haha!
Post # 5
You must have read my mind! I’m super stressed right now, planning the wedding in a location I’m not familar with, and trying to study for the bar exam in late July. Ack!! There is so much to do and no time to do it.
I recently talked to Fiance, who has not been that involved, and he has been helping more. That has helped to calm my stress level because it makes me feel that I at least have a partner in this whole mess.
Post # 6
We’re date twins, and I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about. I spent all day, every day of Memorial Weekend doing wedding stuff, and when it was over, I somehow felt like I had more to do than I did when I started. And now the anxiety has set in too, so I’m constantly thinking up things that might go wrong. What if nobody signs our expensive-a$$ guestbook? What if the DJ screws up the ceremony music that we worked so hard on? What if the caterer forgets to stock the liqueur they need to make our signature cocktail? And so on…
Post # 7
When I completely stress out, I often have to stand back from the situation. Have a nice cup of tea/chai, put my headphones in, turn my MP3 player on and just go for a long walk away from everything. I just need that quiet time to refocus and cool down so I don’t open the gates of hell on anyone.
I agree with delegating tasks too. Or maybe talking to your FIs about maybe doing a task or too. Or even maybe just get away and go on a day trip or a date and NOT talk about the wedding.