Post # 1
Alright so I have been engaged since May, and have been nothing but nice towards everyone in my wedding, everyone helping with my wedding etc.
My one sister, who I have posted about before not only says mean things about my wedding, and still has not ordered her bridesmaid dress!!!!! But she is getting engaged… Next weekend. And she has an idea its coming because she said she needs a manicure, and she keeps talking about her wedding. She said she is going to have a private ceremony and then a party.. which basically she is saying she wants to hurry up and beat me to getting married.
and my step sister, who is just a mess. I mean literally, real life lindsay lohan. She has been dating a guy since august, they were broken up for all of december, and most of this month… GOT MARRIED SATURDAY!! My sister and her soon to be fiance were the witnesses, that is how i found out. They are not announcing it because her husbands brother is getting engaged this week and they don’t want to steal his thunder… but they are announcing it in MAY.. thats right, right before my wedding!!!!
I am really hurt. Especially because my real sister, who is in my wedding, That i have been planning since May, won’t even buy her dress. But she was so excited about my step sister eloping…
I just need to vent. Please don’t say anything rude back……..
Post # 3
@mrsrecon: Maybe you can suggest they announce early May to give a month for that to blow over?
Hopefully your worries about your sister aren’t true in that she wants to hurry to get married first, but even if she does know that your time and enegry spent planning will surely show and you’ll have a spectacular wedding. If your sister doesn’t order her dress yet thats no big deal, mine is a month after yours and 2 of my BMs (including my sister) haven’t even picked their dress, let alone ordered it.
Post # 4
@Elky: the only problem with my sister not having ordered her dress yet, is i asked all my BM’s to have it ordered by january 1st, and they all did. And 3 of them who ordered the last week of december were told their dresses will not be here until Mid-may
Post # 5
I completely understand that you’re upset, reading your post it does sound as you’re… well, kind of left out. Why did your stepsister tell your other sister, but not you?
Regarding them steeling your thunder, I can see you point, but try to comfort yourself with the fact that people that care for you will be equally excited about your wedding regardless what happens around it. I guess it’s a little bit like having a new pet (or kids, but I don’t have them yet…) – the love is enough for more than one.
Regarding your sister, tell her that she have to get her act together and get the dress because it hurts you that she’s neglecting to do so.
Post # 6
@mrsrecon: I didn’t realize their dress took sooo long, here its most 3 months for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Let her know the problem then and maybe ask her if she even wants to be in the bridal party now? If she doesn’t it may save some of your stress 🙂
Post # 7
Well, first off it sounds like your first sister is really trying to rush things. How does she know she is getting engaged? She is probably jumping the gun and sounds a little cray-cray to me.
And hopefully your other sister is better than you say she is. It looks like she has a tough road ahead of her.
What does the rest of your family think about them? Do they think they’re crazy? Because that might take the pressure off you actually. I’d just focus on your wedding and not care what your sisters are doing. You will look like the only normal one.
Post # 8
@Elky: yea, I do not know why these dresses take so long! also My Maid/Matron of Honor, who is my oldest sister, asked her if she really wanted to be in the wedding and if she was going to order her dress, and she said yes… but hasn’t done it.
@mylittleviolett: my sister is really rushing things. she just moved here in july, met this guy in august, and is planning on getting married asap. Not to mention she has a 7 year old child. so she isn’t thinking of him at all. before she met her boyfriend she was telling me how she never wanted to get married etc. I understand when you meet the “one” things change. but she is just crazy! my family thinks both of them are crazy! which will help from stealing my thunder… but at the same time they have both said things that just leads me to believe they just want to get married now, just to beat me to it.. it is really a long back story
Post # 9
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@Elky: Yeah, it seems perfectly accpetable for everyone else to make demands. why cant you?
Post # 10
Ugh I got mad just reading this lol.
Don’t even worry about your step sister, what’s done is done, and if she’s that impulsive she’ll probably have a hard time keeping her marriage secret till May! Even if by some miracle she waits till May, she’s just going to look like an ass announcing her 4 month old marriage right before your wedding
Now, your other sister….if I were you I’d kick her out of the bridal party. She’s obviously not serious about her role in your wedding if she was unwilling to order her dress in time. Plus it sounds like she’s only going to cause you stress, which is the opposite of what a bridal party’s for!
You sound like a caring & thoughtful person, I really really really wouldn’t worry about your sisters stealing any thunder. If anything their immature actions will only make you stand out as the sister who deserves a perfect wedding day. Best of luck to you!
Post # 11
Stepsister sounds crazy, and it’s probably best to just let that one go. She will announce when she announces, and I really wouldn’t let it bother me at all.
As for your BM/sister, well if she doesn’t order the dress then she isn’t in the wedding, simple as that. The only thing a bridesmaid absolutely MUST do is buy the dress and show up- if she can’t manage to do that then she can just sit with your family during the ceremony and there isn’t anything you can do about it. She’s an adult, and if she can’t figure out when to order a dress then it is her problem, not yours.
Post # 12
@mrsrecon: 🙁 I’m sorry about all this. I’d be bummed out too. Just forget about all them as much as you can and think about your wedding day and all your friends, your parents and your family (not them, the others), and how pretty you will look…and most of all, your man standing at the end of that aisle for you. It’s going to be a great day and those two sisters can’t take any of that away from you.
Oh, and she needs to get that damn dress.