Post # 1
Hey Bee’s, okay bare with me here..I have 2 older sister’s, I am 21, and my sister’s are 23 and 25. ALL 3 of us are engaged and planning our own weddings so as you can imagine we are all at each other’s neck’s. My 2 older sisters have always been Best friends, so much so…that I felt more like I was extended family, like a cousin, and they were the only sisters. They hung out everyday and never included me in anything so I always felt like the alone-black sheep. One day They got in a fight about 26yr olds choice of a guy, 6 months ago and drifted apart, and I started growing closer to the sister that’s 23yrs old. The 26yr old got tangled up with a child abusing, lying, cheating, coke-head guy that no one appproved of so she chose him over family and moved away. Since then my 23 yr old sis and I grew alot closer, and we one day promised eachother to have the other as Maid of honor.
FAST FORWARD to today, I get a text from Dear sis (23), telling me she wants my other sister (26) to be her maid of honor too! I thought there could only be one! She said it’s because she couldn’t choose between us! Im in bits, Not because she wants us both, but because I knew if they never fought, she would have NO PROBLEM having my other sis as M.O.H and having me as a bridesmaid, but because she already told me I was the M.O.H, she couldn’t rip that from me now that our other sister has started to come around again. I don’t know what to say without sounding bitter, but I feel that my 26 year old sis doesn’t deserve that title. She ran out on family for EVERY single cokehead on the planet, she’s selfish, and didn’t even bother to show up at the birth of 23yrs olds first baby because her boyfriend didnt want her to. Im angry because Ive been there for 23 year old sis, through alot, and I feel like 26 yrd old sis only came back because it was convienent for her. There is so much hostility in the family because of the things 26yr old sis has done, for instance, she stole my grandfathers wedding rings and pawned them to buy her own egagement ring, took my fathers life savings while he was dying in the hospital, and spent it on a brand new car for herself and a vacation for her and her “fiance”. (Who by the way is the worst guy imaginable. Not just saying this either, think of a cheater, woman abusing, child abusing, drug addict, leech, biggest scum of the earth type of guy and you’ve only just merely begun describing this *ss!))) I don’t know what to say or do! I know this is her wedding, but how would you feel?!!!!
Post # 3
Family is family, even when they run off with coke-heads and…. (yeah, that list is horrible). As a sister the most amazing thing you can do for each other is to be there no matter what, even when your sister isn’t there for you. It must have taken a lot for the middle sister to get past that to bring the eldest in as co-MOH. It might be time to swallow hard and tell them that you’re happy for the decision. (Maybe even consider having both be Maid/Matron of Honor at your wedding, too?)
Post # 4
@bythebook: I agree, sisters are sisters, and you do have to respect that. But on the other hand, you do not have to condone or respect thier decisions. It sounds like 26 year old sister has not been a family player, but she is still in the family. When there is a fight or a major decision to be made between something like this I usually pick neither to keep the piece. Personally I think it is her wedding and she gets to choose, but if it were me, because there seem to be so many emotions around it neither of you would be Maid/Matron of Honor and I would choose a friend.
Post # 5
@globalmargaret: I agree. I have two sisters and felt it was easier to just have them both be bridesmaids then have to deal with picking one of them to be Maid/Matron of Honor.
@GoldenBeauty2202012: It may suck but its her decision. Either make piece with it or ask to just be a bridemaid and have your other sister be the Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 6
My sister’s are Maid and Matron of Honors. One is married, one is single.
Post # 7
I have two older sisters as well. In my oldest sister’s wedding, both me and my middle sister were the Maids of Honor.
At my wedding, my oldest sister was Matron of Honor and my middle sister was Maid of Honor.
There’s no way I could have chosen between the two. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having two – you do what you want at your own wedding! This way, both important people were honored and there were no bad feelings floating around 🙂
Post # 8
Yeah I agree, what she’s done is irrelevant, she is still a sister. You can’t put one in front of the other. Look at it this way it’s a lot of responsibility and you have someone to share it with. You should look at this as an opportunity for the three of you to get close. Everyone deserves a second chance. Your jealousy could ruin the closeness you have found with your sister. Having felt like an outsider you know how it feels, don’t make your older sister feel that way, give her a chance. Only thing better than having one close sister is having two:)