Post # 1
i’m new here 🙂
so i’m wondering what people’s experiences have been with having 2 wedding bands. i really love the look of having 2 bands with my engagement ring because i like the thickness / symmetry / more diamond look, especially since my engagement band is plain. but there are a couple issues:
1. twice the wedding bands means twice the cost.
2. it seems like it’d be more special to have one wedding band that represents the union and is given as the symbol of that on the wedding day. i don’t know if i’d want 2 bands involved in the ceremony – or would that be okay?
would it be weird to buy one of the bands just because i like it, and then buy the other one as my official wedding band? i know people have talked about having the second as an anniversary present, but i feel having one band with my engagement ring looks kind of weird and i want both right away, haha. i apologize if i sound indulgent or spoiled – but i basically don’t wear any other jewellery so want to get this just right.
i know you guys don’t know me and only my fiance and i can decide if the extra cost is worth it, but i’m just wondering if anyone can contribute their two cents / has experience with this!
Post # 2
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
I have 1 band now and already know I’m getting the second as a present for our 1st anniversary- but I know some people used to get another band as a push present.
I know you may like the symmetry but I like the idea of having something to look forward to. And it’s not as asymetrical as you may think.
If you do both bands though- I wouldn’t have them separate- I’d go ahead and have them all soldered together ahead of time so it’s just one ring he’s placing on your finger that day.
I have a friend getting married in December and she’s already wearing her entire set because she did just that … oh well!
Post # 3
taylorp : Hi! I have two bands and love it! Right after getting engaged I knew I always envisioned a stack rather than just the traditional ering and wedding band.
One of my bands is an heirloom style eternity band and the other is plain rose gold so it wasn’t double the cost but obviously more than originally thought.
The day of the wedding we did take a moment to think about how, logistically, the ring exchange would work because I have two. What I ended up doing was wearing my ering and the plain rose gold band on my right hand and then having Darling Husband put the eternity ring on my left hand. It ended up being very simple and easy to navigate.
I absolutely love having a little stack and am very happy I decided to pull the trigger on buying both (and also very fortunate that I have a Darling Husband who doesn’t balk at my requests).
I’m not sure what area you’re in but if there’s a Long’s jewelers I highly recommend them! Darling Husband and I went to their summer sale and got great deals. Diamond rings were 20% off and non diamond bands were 30%
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - Edson Keith Mansion
I liked the two band look as well so I went ahead and got a ring guard. I don’t see any problem with getting 2 bands now–to me it seems arbitrary to pick a random date and force yourself to wait to get the set that you want. 🙂
Post # 5
I will probably end up wearing 4 rings! in order from the base of my finger up:
Engraved rose gold wedding band (this is THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE)
1 mm white gold spacer
Rose gold engagement ring with white gold Tulip prongs and 7.5mm H&A moissanite
White gold eternity ring with turquoise stones because I love what turquoise represents and always want to have some on me.
Post # 6
taylorp : I bought two wedding bands for myself! I love the icier look. My rings are mismatched to give my set a little personality. I did end up over spending because I chose eternity rings. But it’s what I wanted. I think it looks great. If you want two and you can afford two then by all means go for it.
As far as “one ring symoblizing the unity” I feel more strongly about the e-ring and his band showing that. I feel like the woman’s band is more like “deal closed” haha so with two bands it’s double sealed. LOL
My double bands:
Post # 7
I’m going to be ordering a second wedding band because I don’t like how the one I have fits againt my engagement ring, so I’m getting a 1mm round ring to put between them to hopefully fix the problem. If you want the same thing on either side of your wedding band there are also those guard type wedding band that fit over your engagement ring.
Post # 8
thanks for the responses everyone! the pictures of some of your rings are BEAUTIFUL.
somathemagical : i am in love with your set – it’s actually very similar to what i want except instead of a diamond i have a purple sapphire with a diamond halo! i am going for the mismatched look too. may i ask how much your bottom ring costs? and did you include both in the ceremony, or how did you handle that?
i just found out that the store we’ve been looking at is having a 30% off sale today, so we are probably going to go get our rings today.
i also found out that the lady mis-quoted me before for a ring i loved, and it’s $2,400 and that’s WITH the 30% discount 🙁 so that’s definitely a no-go. which i’m sad about but i’m sure i can find another one i like that’s a quarter of the price (still expensive, but i’m willing to spring for the wedding bands)
i’ll have to choose a different second band. and i think i like the idea of having one band as the wedding band, and then just adding the second band after the ceremony or something. so it’s clear that it’s just an aesthetic / symmetry piece rather than symbolizing something. i think…. i’m still confused, but i do know i want 2 bands so i guess i’ll have to figure something out!
Post # 9
noleita : beautiful too! i think i agree with the forcing yourself to wait thing. might as well complete the set right away 🙂 did you include both of yours in the ceremony?
Post # 10
Erko_1022 : did you put your plain rose gold band on just before the ceremony or something?
Post # 11
taylorp : Yep! Just put it on my right hand with my ering and switched it over after we walked out. Full stack below (gap is intentional – plain band can sit flush against ering but I actually prefer a little separation):
Post # 12
taylorp : girl, you just do you! I am sentimental so I would include them in the ceremony. I do. It have 2 bands I actually have a band that matches my husbands that was used as the ring he put on my finger and a diamond band that I wore on my right hand. My question is-are both bands the same just one on each side or different? Not that it matters. But idk if u would ever choose to wear just one for any reason u could. If u got a wrap or enhancer u couldn’t do that. But I see nothing wrong with wanting 2! Good luck and post pics!!!!
Post # 13
taylorp : I see nothing wrong or selfish with wanting 2 bands. You could have your Fiance put all 3 on your finger during your ceremony.
A friend of mine now has 2 bands. She got the first at their wedding and the other one last month for their first anniversary. She has all 3 soldered together and it looks gorgeous.
Post # 14
I have two bands because I’m a symmetry freak. Can’t wait to wear them after I get married next Saturday 🙂 These pics were from right after I picked them up from the jeweler while he was out of town. I lose jewelry and didn’t have the key to the safe so I wore them until he got back.
Post # 15
I wear 2, sometimes 3, bands. I found the 2 non-wedding bands for relatively cheap on Etsy. I just used the 1 “official” band in the ceremony. That’s the one I feel most sentimental about, and the others I like to mix/match, and may someday rotate out. The wedding band itself I’ll always wear.