Post # 1
Sorry I am going to vent…I just can’t’ take it anymore. My fiance and I have been going out for about 3 years, the first 2 were great, but the moment we decided to get married, it’s just been bad. I’ve had inlaw issues, to issues with him like not seeing me more than once every 2 weeks, to taking depression meds etc. I feel like this year has been horrible, and on top of it all, I kinda did something stupid. I put my cousins whom I was expected to include in the bridal party, last minute (as in 2 days ago) into the bridal party, fully knowing he would get mad. He isn’t too crazy about my extended family, and I didn’t discuss it with him because I knew he would just shut the door on it. Yes I get it I was wrong.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear you’re having problems. I think pre-wedding bickering is pretty normal – my Fiance and I definetly have our moments – and the expectations of extended families also can add to the stress (seriously can my FFI please stop suggestng additions to the guest list? We’re 45 days out!) That said, sounds like maybe you guys are having some more serious issues – have you gone to premarital counseling? Maybe that could help you two have a nonconfrontational conversation and remind you both why you wanted to get married in the first place. There’s also nothing wrong with postponing a wedding if you’re feeling unsure. I called off my wedding in my mid-20s and it was one of the best decisions of my life (but also the hardest!) Good luck and the hive is here for you!
Post # 4
I’m sorry you’re going through this difficult time. If I may ask, why shouldn’t you have your extended family in the wedding if you want to? It’s your wedding as well and both of you should have a say who is in the wedding. It sound slike you guys need to sit down and talk about some things because it seems like there’s a lack of commnication.
Post # 5
for better or for worse.. and sometimes, it really is worse. we’ve been through it all, and if you can make it through depression and come out for the better, than you’re doing pretty good. we’ve had a lot of people tell us, make sure your doing the right thing, marriage is work. duh! i know this, and it’s work before you get married too. i hope things get better and turn out for the best. i second pre-marital couseling if you can get him too, or any kind of couseling really can help
Post # 6
Me and my Fiance are currently having some major discussions-things that never came up in all the 5 years of dating-but now are coming into the light as the big day approaches. I think it is a combination of stress, and the seriousness of the decision that can just become overwhelming! Also since I am doing all the planning I find it is consuming a lot of my time outside of work (which I work ridculous hours, like 70+/week) and taking away from me and Fiance time. Maybe take a nice relaxing night out or something and promise to just focus on each other and not all the chaos that surrounds a wedding 🙂