Post # 31
Since you said people can bring in their own alcohol, why not buy a couple cases of inexpensive champagne or prosecco? That should be less than $200. That way, people can toast you properly, and partake if they want to. There’s nothing wrong with a dry wedding, but I find a non-dry one much more festive.
I know you’re technically underage, but I was drinking at family parties once I was in college, so no one in my family would’ve batted an eye if I had a glass of champagne at 20.
Post # 32
A dry brunch reception is perfectly acceptable. Not rude at all.
Post # 33
I second mimosas and Bloody Mary’s. OP, for yourselves, you could have sparkling champaign for the toast!
You should talk to your venue and see what the cost would be for enough for 1-2 drinks per guest to keep costs low…I would definitely not ask about it on the invite though, and would forgo the cash bar.
Post # 34
I think it would be kind of crazy for your guests to expect you to provide alcohol when you and your Fiance cannot legally purchase it! That being said, I love MrsBuesleBee: ‘s idea of a champagne toast.
Post # 35
I wouldn’t expect a 10 am wedding between two 20-year olds to have any alcohol–and I’m a brunch cocktail fan.
Post # 36
Some people drink with brunch, others don’t. Since the people hosting the wedding (you and your FI) aren’t old enough to drink, I don’t think anyone would feel slighted if it wasn’t offered, especially given the time it’s being held. And if they are, they can keep it to themselves. You won’t be able to please everyone, so do what you feel comfortable with.
Post # 37
I don’t think a bar is necessary for a morning brunch but champagne for toasting and mimosas would be nice!
Post # 38
Thanks everyone for the opinions! The manager of the reception place has been kind enough emailing me about the alcohol situation!
They said they didn’t know I was underage and technically couldn’t accept a check from me so I would have to ask my mom or dad to pay and pay them back. They only offer the “real” champaign so I would have to pay full price.
When it comes down to it, I love my family and they love me so I don’t think I can go wrong. Most of you agreed it wouldn’t be rude so I think for now I’m not ordering the alcohol but if I change my mind I can.
They seem pretty strict about the alcohol thing so I don’t think I can sneak some for the toast and I’m allergic to Apple juices so I can’t toast with that. I think my family will understand and I don’t want to feel like a little kid toasting NY water while everyone else have there alcohol lol.
Post # 39
Nothing wrong with having a dry wedding. It’s yall’s wedding and yall’s decision. I went to a friend’s AM wedding and they served mimosas. There was something interesting about AM weddings…my friend had brunch as well. I think it’s unique and intimate.
Post # 40
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I know people here despise cash bars but in this situation I think it makes sense. Not only is the wedding early but ya’ll are underage.
I don’t really agree with people who are saying that you should provide it for people who are underage because they probably drink in college. I get it but I would never advise anyone of putting themselves in the situation of being accused of providing booze to minors. That can turn ugly quick.
Post # 41
BYOB. You guys can’t even drink yet so…
Post # 42
With you being under age and the wedding taking place in the morning, I would probably be surprised to see alcohol.
Post # 43
My sister is 24, having an late afternoon/early evening wedding and isn’t having any alcohol at all at the wedding. Not even champagne for toasting. Where as I am having a late evening wedding with an open bar. People have given her crap for not having alcohol and people have given me crap for having an open bar (apparently, this makes me look like a lush). Do what you want, what you can afford and what makes you happy – it’s your wedding – you can’t make everyone happy.
Post # 44
ohmygoodgollygosh: it’s a wedding, not a democracy. If you ask people they will a) have an opinion and b) be really confused when they get there and it isn’t what they wanted.
listen. If you’re old enough to have a wedding, you’re old enough to make the decision to not have alcohol at it. End of story! 🙂
Post # 45
ohmygoodgollygosh: 10 AM is sooo early. I don’t really get why your sister thinks it is rude. I would say go for it!