- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Help us set the date, PLEASE!!!!! Here are some pros and cons, regarding our situation…I know it’s hard to figure it out if you’re not in the situation, but what do you think?
AUGUST 8, 2009
– P R O S –
~It’s sooner [we have been engaged for over a year already]
~I can get all the planning done before I start grad school.
~We can be married before I start grad school [better health benefits, less to worry about while in grad school].
~No matter the date, I am having a very intimate wedding. If we got married in 6 months, it would seem more out of necessity [starting grad school and whatnot] and I think the rest of my family that will not be invited to the ceremony wouldn’t be as offended. I don’t know if that makes sense.
~For August 2009, we would be getting married about 1.5 months after my sister [June 09] and about 1.5 months before his brother [Oct 09]. This might seem like a negative point, but I like the idea of us getting married so close to each other.
– C O N S –
~It’s sooner, so there will be less time to save money, less time to lose weight, and less time to plan. Not a big deal to me, but still a negative aspect.
~He doesn’t want to get married that soon, for reasons he has trouble expressing .
~We have lived in my parent’s basement for about 2 years and if we waited to get married, we could use some of the money to get an apartment. My grandma insists we need to live together on our own before getting married…although we did live illegally together in a dorm for 6 months…
~If we get married sooner, we might end up being married and living apart for a while, because I might have to move away to go to grad school and he doesn’t want to move with me [and leave a good job in this economy] until he has job security. I don’t really mind the idea of being married and living apart, but he does.
~My parents can’t help with the wedding budget much if we get married this August because my sister set her date right away and they pledged a lot of money to her [thinking I wouldn’t get married until 2010 or later.
I’m having trouble thinking of pros and cons for 2010 right now. Mostly because I’m frustrated, but also because the pros for ’09 are basically the same for the cons for ’10 and vice versa.
PLEASE HELP! Another bee suggested I flip a coin, and I’m definitely considering that, but I still want to figure this out as much as possible.