Post # 1
I’m kind of appalled by the fact that FI’s Groomsmen who has just been a huge pain in the ass in every way since he got engaged not too long ago (I’ve posted about it a number of times already) and the most recent move is that they are getting married at a place in the middle of nowhere and we pretty much have no choice but to stay at the place where they are having the wedding which is $200 a night with a 2-night minimum stay, and this is of course before tax.
Does anyone else find this as obnoxious as I do? This is more than I have ever spent on a hotel room in my entire life, including places I’ve stayed on various nice vacations I’ve taken.
Post # 3
That’s outrageous! How do they expect anyone to attend their wedding if nobody can afford the hotel? I hope they don’t expect a gift on top of that $400+!
Post # 4
I’ve been to a wedding in Nantucket, and all of the hotels there cost an arm and a leg and had minimum two night stays also. We paid nearly $300 a night for a hotel there and it was a total dump. Not to mention the cost of getting a ferry over to the island and back. Of course there was also the cost of plane tickets from Philly to Boston.
It is what it is, I guess. I suppose they feel that if anyone doesn’t want to spend the money to attend their wedding, then so be it.
Post # 5
2-night minimum?! Why the hell would you stay two nights if it’sf or a wedding?
Ugh. Is there anyone you guys can share a room with? $200/night is a TON of money. I have never spent that kind of money on a hotel (business aside and I didn’t pay!) because it’d have to be 5 star first class and I’d have to have won the lottery
How far away is it? Is there absolutely ZERO other choices? even a motel 6 or something???
I’m one of those people who think it’s relatively inconsiderate to make your guests stay at super expensive places b/c you picked a weird location. Plus, couldn’t they have bargained with the hotel, stating it was a wedding and only 1 night was necessary??
Post # 6
That is ridiculous! I’d be so pissed. I bet they’re going to have a lot less guests than they’d like to have. Not everyone can comfortably spend that much. And, most people wouldn’t need to be there for 2 nights, that’s just wasted money. It sounds like they didn’t even consider their guests, kinda dumb.
Post # 7
It depends on the hotel. Is it during a special weekend? that’s why they may have a 2 day minimum. Is it a local chain? you can always call and book 2 nights, and if it’s a hilton or something, go in online and change your reservation to 1 night. that’s one way out of it. I think 200 a night is pricey, but not unheard of. If the place is a dump, then you should get upset. but i think you are just mad in general about this wedding – if you guys are going to go, just make the best of it. Or don’t go, and don’t worry about the hotels and logistics. You would be upset if they were on here saying the same about your hotel!
Post # 8
Its obnoxious, but sometimes a necessary evil. We went to a wedding this past summer that was like $250 a night with a 2 night minimum. Talk to the hotel though, they were willing to let us out of that minimum.
Post # 9
wow. yeah i have been to a few weddings like that – we ended up sharing a room with two other couples one time, and just ended up not drinking at the other and leaving early for the other. ugh
very inconsiderate. we didnt really have the $$ to pay for a gift for the couple either – so i hope they love crappy gifts.
Post # 10
Wow – that is crazy!!! Yeah, I’d be a little mad too.
Post # 11
One of the resorts we booked a block at is $165/night which is considerably cheaper than it usually is [$225] but we also have a hotel block at a hotel that’s about $100/night so we have two price points. I think that’s what most people should do especially when one is considerably pricier. The only reason why we’re recommending the more expensive one: it’s walking distance [think 20 feet] to the wedding and reception.
Post # 12
It wouldn’t annoy me so much if they gave another option at a different price point, which is what etiquette says you’re supposed to do. Fiance is looking into other options but it’s not looking good, plus there will be no transportation there and we’re not going to want to drive. I never EVER do this, but it may have to be one of those really cheap gift scenarios if we’re spending that much for the hotel.
Congrats, here’s a plastic spatula and a nice card.
Post # 13
Maybe is you guys find a hotel a ways away, you could share some kind of transportation with other couples who would want to stay at a cheaper place too!
Post # 14
This is my problem too: the closest accommodations (a really cute inn) require a 2-night minimum to get the group rate…
But just don’t book as part of the room block and you can book your 1 night at the regular rate!
That’s what I’m advising people to do who don’t want to stay 2 nights.
Post # 15
Wow. With every post I read about this guy, he comes more and more of a jerk.
Post # 16
I don’t think $200 is that bad. We intentionally decided to get married at a hotel in the city to make it easier for our guests who will all be from Out of Town. The rate for the 5-star hotel is usually over $350 for a night in June, but we negotiated them down to $200 for our guests. So for us, $200 is a deal. There’s also no minimum and our rooms are free regardless of filling the block. Guests have already booked their rooms and thanked us up and down for getting such a good rate.
But we obviously also blocked another nearby hotel with a $140/night rate for guests who think $200 is too much. And there are hundreds of hotels within a 10-block radius including Club Quarters which I think is only about $80/night.
In your case, I hope the bride is prepared to have people RSVP with regrets b/c of the cost OR not get gifts from guests who are cash-strapped due to the hotel..