Post # 1
I’m losing it! My wedding is in 18 days. The dresses have been in since the first of the month and only 1 bridesmaid has gone to pick it up! One bridesmaid just got paid and is going later this week. The other two, won’t return a phone call, a text, a facebook message, nothing.
It’s just so irritating to send nice messages and not get any response, but see them talking to other people of facebook. Damned facebook.
What am I going to do? They all owe on the dresses and they need to get them hemmed. (because they put like a foot extra on the bottom of dresses, whats up with that?)
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you are dealing with this, it’s definitely not fair for them to put this on you so close to the wedding! If you know they are talking to other people on facebook I might just post on their wall so other people can see, and say hey, hope you’re okay, I called you but I haven’t heard back and was worried. I was calling to remind you that the dress still needs to be picked up and there isn’t much time to get it altered so hopefully you can go pick it up in the next day or two.”
Hopefully it will make them slightly embarassed that other people realize they have been being rude and they might get their butts in gear. It’s not the best advice but it seems like you’ve tried really hard to contact them and they are just being really rude. I hope they get this sorted out soon! Good luck!
Post # 4
I hear ya. I initially had 5 BM’s, one being a friend and the other 4 are cousins. They all agreed to pay for their own dress, and price wasn’t a big deal as long as they could make payments. Well 2/5 have already paid half down and the lady at the store said that they couldn’t order them until everyone had paid their half. When the other 3 hear about the price of the dress (188.00) they flip out and say thats too much to spend on a dress..I even heard that one said to my aunt she could care less if she was in my wedding or not…which hurt my feelings a bit…so I kicked her out.
Anywho, I agree that your Bridesmaid or Best Man is being very rude ignoring every possible mean of contact you are trying. If I were you, I would go to her house. What could she do then? Hide?
Post # 5
1 bridsemaid finally got back to me on facebook. I still hadn’t heard from the other one on Friday (15 days to go) I considered going to her house that morning. So. I though I’d call her first and give her a chance to answer. 2 rings and then to voicemail. I think “I got her!” so I call relentlessly! and she sends me a text that says “Ur trippin stop calling me 4 real”
So I am (was) down a bridesmaid and $263 (The price of the dress and the shoes that she took) I’m still down that. No response since.
I even spent the time to write her a final email on facebook
I really don’t understand why you’re not communicating with me. At this point I’m trying not to care. All I really want is for my friends to be there for me on our special day, and if you don’t fit the description then by all means continue ignoring me.
If you do, please call me. I’m not a bill collector, I don’t need dress money, I need my friend in the dress!
I really do hope you are well,
and if you have no intentions on responding, have a good life.
She is beyond a betch. Now I am overjoyed I don’t have to see her smug face in my wedding photos for the rest of my life. And I have a friend who saved the day and will be a bridesmaid!
Even Though I’ve been royally screwed by a friend of 5 years, nothing will ruin our wedding day!
Post # 6
This sucks, so much stress. If all else fails – they won’t get to stand up with you. Pretty simple. If they don’t have a dress, they can’t participate. I know you wouldn’t want this at all, but that’s probably the worst case scenario. They’ll get to be guests, have to still pay the bill for the dress – hope you havent given them gifts yet!
Post # 7
Only the good ones have gotten gifts. And the really supportive ones got extras 🙂
Post # 8
That is completley awful. 1 of my 4 bridesmaids rarely returns calls also. But my wedding is 3 months out I can’t imagine 18 days out and still having these problems. I am glad you replaced her. You need people around you who will support you on your wedding day not be self absorbed.
Post # 9
That’s terrible! Why is it that the wedding process reveals these problem friendships? You’ll be starting a new chapter in your life on your wedding day, and hopefully one that includes your supportive family and your true friends.
Post # 10
Though it is terrible she would treat me this way, I feel its a blessing. A lot of people have to deal with untrue friends for a lifetime before they realize they’re toxic. Now she’s out of my life before it begins again.