Post # 1
This is going to be really silly; but I’m having a bit of difficulty with deciding whether to keep the ring as is, or to return it before 30d is up and re-set it to a narrower band…
My FH did a GREAT job in picking out the stone and paying attention to what I wanted. He requested the band width to be 2mm since I wanted a narrow band…well, the jewerler made it 2.4mm…
I love the ring; I don’t want to part from it; but I wonder if I’ll regret it if I don’t re-set it to the criterion I wanted (and requested by my FH).
I’m getting mixed opinions from friends. A half thinks it should stay As Is. My center stone is on a larger side and they think it’d look out of proportion if I went down to 2mm (but really, we are talking about 0.4mm!)…
The other half think I should switch to 2mm – going for more delicate look (like Sarah Shahi’s ring on InStyle Wedding Spring ’09 issue)…again, 0.4mm – would it make a difference?
I don’t want to be an indecisive/whiny bride-to-be, but I’d love to do a poll and see what you ladies think. Will you help me?
The picture below shows Sarah Shahi’s ring on the cover of the Instyle (left) and mine (right)…I tried to make our ring fingers about the same size but I think the picture of my hand is bigger…)
Post # 3
Maybe visit a couple of jewelers and try it on with some of the wedding ring styles you like– that tiny change in the width may make a difference in how you like the look of the engagement ring/wedding ring combo.
Post # 4
The size difference isn’t incredible, but I also favor the thin, delicate bands. It bother you, plus, if he requested a 2mm band and the jeweler didn’t deliver, I’d just have the jeweler change it out so you’ll be happy with it.
How long would it take to get the new band? Would the jeweler have to recreate it, or would it just be a simple switch? If it would only take a day or so to pop out the diamond and set it in a new band, I’d definitely have it done. If it would be weeks of waiting for the new band… maybe not.
Post # 5
While I do love the look of the more delicate, thin band, I think the 2.4 still looks lovely. I know when my ring was being made, I requested the band to be "as thin as possible" and what I really wanted couldn’t be done because the band/prongs have to be able to sufficiently support the diamond.
I think your ring is so pretty.
Post # 6
Your ring is gorgeous. However, I have a larger right hand ring and it’s on a pretty slim band. The problem with this is that it tends to fall to the side more. It almost never sits in the center of my finger. It’s ALWAYS falling depending on whether my fingers are a little swollen due to heat or if they’re cold. It’s a big pain
This is why i wanted a thick engagement ring band. I think if you went with the really thin band it might slip a little bit. The weight of the diamond just tips it over! Also, i have an amethyst that was on a really thin delicate band–one of my favorite things about it, and it CRACKED because it was SOOOOO thin. The jeweler had to reshank it and was telling me how thicker bands are better for everyday jewelry.
Some things to consider. I think your ring looks great as it is set though! Gorgeous diamond =]
Post # 7
Thank you so much girls! and Thank you for the complements! These are really helpful tips. … I do love the fact how the votes are 3 to 2!…almost 50/50… 😀
Post # 8
So, I just heard from my jeweler, and she says since I wanted the head above the band and not set lower (so a wedding band can fit flush) they needed to make the band a certain width to hold that size head. Otherwise, the head would have been hanging off the sides. This brings me to another question; how many people have the wedding band that fit flush against the e-ring?…
Post # 9
Your ring is beautiful. As for yout sitting flush question, mine sit flush. My e-ring actually has a little groove cut out one one side that a prong from the wedding band fits into. It keeps them together and straight since the iamonds on each match up and look funny when they are off…
Post # 10
Mine do not sit flush. It just was not possible becasue they were not made as a little set. But, ti sounds like the sides of the prong of your ring head where your diamond sits would knock against your wedding band. It doesn’t sound good…it’ll tilt your wedding band. Since you have a simple solitaire, you probably want it to sit flush or it may be uncomfortable
Post # 11
kdlowery and others: Did you (or would you) have any reservations about cutting a groove into one side of the e-ring to make the wedding ring fit flush? It was suggested to me that they can shave one side…and that this is done commonly. I have a bit of OCT (quoted by a friend: obssessive compulsive tendencies) and I’m wondering…doesn’t that mess with the symmetry of the ring?…
Post # 12
Regarding your Engagement Ring – I think the ring looks great just as is. But I understand that you want your Engagement Ring EXACTLY how you want it because you will be looking at it FOREVER! However, the points that your jeweler (and previous posters) have made about the amount of gold necessary to hold your diamond safely, are good points!!
Regarding a wedding band sitting flush. If you have a problem with your wedding band sitting flush, all you have to do is get a wedding band custom made to shape around your Engagement Ring. You should not have to modify your Engagement Ring at all! My friend had your exact ring and ran into the problem of wanting her band to fit snugly against her Engagement Ring flushly. So, she simply had a wedding band made to fit right around her Engagement Ring. It is perfect AND the best part is, it also supports the solitaire so it avoids the ring spinning thing!
Post # 13
I would definitely change it! It is absolutely beautiful, and maybe it is my personal taste skewing my view, but I think the thinner rings are much more feminine. I also think you will always regret it if you don’t take care of it -you knew what you wanted all along, and the jeweler should have respected it! Good luck 🙂