Post # 1
During my bridal shower, my friend gave me a $25 gift certificate to a lingerie store that she bought while she was visiting in town (she hasn’t shopped at the store before). I know that’s not much when it comes to lingerie, but I figured it could go towards a bra or underwear or something nice. I’m a graduate student and don’t have very much money, so I figured I could use it to buy something a little nicer for myself without breaking the bank.
I went to the store today, and boy was I wrong about prices and everything else. Virtually nothing was in my size (I’m a size 14 dress, about the same as the friend who gave me the certificate). The bras that were in my size cost $89, which is far more than I can afford to spend even with a $25 discount. Everything in clearance that would fit me is at least $100. I could have bought a bottle of lingerie wash for $14, and that would be it.
My friend and I have a long running joke about lingerie on our wedding nights, so I know she will want to see what I used my gift certificate on. However, I don’t think I’m going to be able to scrape together enough money to use the gift certificate on anything to wear! I’m wondering what to say to her and what to do with the gift certificate itself. It’s a card that has my name on it, so I’m thinking about calling the store to ask for it to be transferred to someone else? Would that be rude? I’m also curious whether it’s inconsiderate to buy someone who doesn’t have much money a gift certificate to an incredibly expensive store. My friend has a good heart, and I think as an out-of-towner she didn’t realize how expensive the place was, but I’m just curious for the future.
Post # 3
Instead of doing something behind her back, I would go ahead and talk to her directly about it. Be upfront and honest! That’s the best thing that you can do.
Just tell her that it was incredibly sweet of her, but you cannot use it because you can’t afford to buy anything even with the gift card. Maybe tell her that you will hang on to it and use it at a later date when you are able to afford something extra? I’m sure she’ll understand hon, times are tough. Just don’t lie to her or do something without telling her, that’s the worst thing that you can do.
Post # 4
@PacificMrs: I completely agree! I don’t think she will be hurt if you thank her sincerely and tell her why you can’t use it right now, but I do think that she’d be sad if you didn’t and she later found out.
Post # 5
@PacificMrs: I definitely don’t want to lie to her, but I think I’d make her feel bad if I just told her what was going on. She can’t use this gift certificate either — she bought it while on a trip to my part of the country. i guess this is a no-win situation in a way.
Post # 6
Girl, sell it on eBay! My darling little brother got me a $50 gift card to a store that was more suited for clubbing girls…or 12 year olds with bad parents. I got $48 for it on eBay! Then just go buy something with the money you get from an affordable place and show her that (if she insists).
Post # 7
I’m sure she would appreciate your honesty much more than you doing something behind her back like selling it on Ebay. When she asks what you used it on because she thinks that you used it, what are you going to tell her? Just be honest. She will understand if she is your friend honey.
Post # 8
Find out if you can transfer it to someone else, and if so see if you can sell it to someone (I think there are websites where you can do this). If she’s the type of friend who is understanding, use the money for lingerie at an affordable store and you can show her what you bought.
Post # 9
Seconding the ebay thing! Or craigslist!
You might only get $20ish dollars for it, but $20 in cash is much more useful than $25 locked up in a card you can’t really afford to use.
Post # 10
You couldn’t eve buy ONE pair of underwear?
If literally the only thing under $25 in the store is the wash, I’d buy it. Tell her you’ve heard rave reviews about it and can’t wait to use it. Or that you’ve already used it and it’s wonderful.
The LAST thing I would do is tell her you can’t use the card because it wasn’t enough. I can’t even think of anything that could make her feel worse.
Either that or buy something inexpensive somewhere else and cut the tags off before you show her – your call!
Post # 11
id buy the wash, tell her thats the most important lingerie..as its on your skin all day and without a good smell you might as well be a naked stinky bride 🙂
if you arent too concerned about any other lingerie- i wouldnt worry, you can find TONS Of new things on ebay ,i got all my bridesmaids Vickies panties for half what they sell for in the stores!
Post # 12
I (obviously) agree with @Juliepants:. Even if my MOH gave me a $10 gift card to La Perla, I wouldn’t call her up and say “Hey, I love you, and appreciate the gift, but $10 isn’t enough to buy anything”. What’s my Maid/Matron of Honor supposed to say? “oh, sorry, here’s $100”? Nope, she’d just feel bad. Maybe $25 is all your friend could afford. I’d buy the wash or some pasties (if it’s the type of store to sell those…those can’t be expensive) or sell the GC.
Post # 13
I would absolutely NOT tell her that you couldn’t use the gift certificate because it wasn’t enough. That’s so incredibly rude. She gave you a gift so you should just be thankful for it. You said she’s from Out of Town so she probably had no idea how much the stuff actually cost.
If it were me, I’d just hold onto the GC until you can afford to use it. It’s only $25 so even if that’s a year down the road or never, it’s really not that big of a deal. If you absolutely have to get some kind of lingerie to show her (which I find very strange but whatev), then go to Macys and get something from the sale rack. I doubt the girls going to inspect the tags.
Post # 14
I don’t think the gift was rude. I personally dislike gift cards but she could have bought you something you don’t like from somewhere else for $25 and you’d still be stuck with nothing useful. Gifts aren’t always useful so its best to focus on the symbolic meaning. I like the idea of buying the lingerie wash and agree with the posters who suggest you should not tell her you cannot use it because the store is too expensive.
Post # 15
She most likely had no idea how expensive that store could be. I agree with PP and say you don’t say anything to her. It would definitely make me feel bad if I were in her shoes. If she asks just either say you haven’t gotten around to using it, or lie and said you bought ___ with it.
Post # 16
If you really want to sell the gift card, this is a reputable site:
I agree with @Juliepants: there wasn’t even a cute thong or ANYTHING for $40? Was it La Perla or something, jeez!