2nd & 3rd trimester bees – would you recommend hosting a dinner party at 12 wks?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

sleepymelis :  If your husband doesn’t feel up to it, I would respect that. You two together are the hosts, not just you.

 

Can you order in? Get prepared stuff that you just have to heat up? But you still you have to clean….. Go out to a restaurant?

 

If you don’t host, will someone else? If you are to have a shower later, will these people be invited? Are you really not going to see them until Christmas 2018?

 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was exhausted!! My “morning sickness” was only bad if I didn’t eat for more than like an hour or two at a time, but I got off work and just wanted to lay in bed every day for like 6 weeks or more. I’d worry that by the time everything was ready the day of I would have been too tired to actually participate or enjoy it, but everyone is different. Maybe if it’s on a Sunday you can clean the day before and then order out if necessary. For sure make sure Darling Husband is on board because he may be picking up a lot of slack. Also, everyone is different so no amount of planning can predict how it will effect you. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

pearlrose :  this isn’t true. 50% suffer with vomiting and 80% nausea without vomiting. 

Everyone is different, OP. I wouldn’t have been able to do this unless forced at 12w due to vomiting, but your experience may be different. There’s really no way of knowing. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had horrible morning sickness but still could have fought through. Can you plan on getting it catered tho?

Post # 20
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Newbee

I felt like shit at that point in my pregnancy.  Looking back (I’m third tri now), I wish I had said NO to more things.  I told myself, “you’re pregnant, not an invalid,” but I felt so unwell and should have been more selfish with my time/energy.

Given the fact that you don’t get to see these people very often, it makes sense that you’d want to host the party like usual.  If you want to go ahead with your plans, I’d say have backup ideas for things like food and decor to make it less work on you in case you are feeling poorly.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

littlebuzz :  Sorry, I did not mean to say morning sickness doesn’t exist!  Of course it does!  I was just saying that unless you have hyperemesis gravidarium or something else more severe than the norm, you can probably host a dinner party.  Plus most people’s feelings of nausea/tiredness end at 12 weeks.  The regular morning sickness where you just carry around some saltines and lollipops to eat throughout the day tends to be more annoying than debilitating, and does not keep the average person from carrying on with life as usual.  I don’t mean to say that the first trimester is nothing but sunshine and rainbows.  I banned garlic from my home for weeks lol.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

pearlrose :  god I was so not the norm then 😞 21 weeks now and still not out the woods. Though able to face a dinner party now, lol. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I hosted a baby shower for a friend at 11 weeks and it was horrible. I was nauseated all day long, and couldn’t stand being around the smell of food. I had to keep running to throw up while I was cooking everything before the shower. I was also exhausted, so one afternoon of hosting put me out for three days. If your husband can take over all the preperations in case you feel terrible it might work, just depends on the severity of your symptoms really. 

Post # 24
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Honey bee

Fwiw, someone at my office had horrid morning sickness and still made it to work. So I say if you’re really excited about it, keep the party and change as needed. Maybe it needs to be pizza and beer if you’re sick. Or maybe your husband can help with it. It’s up to you and your comfort level. 

Post # 25
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Honey bee

I’m not saying you should push through though because rest is important. Thought I’d add that in there. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

I was about to give birth the year I hosted our annual Christmas dinner for my family. My siblings offered to take over, but I said no I’m fine as it’s my turn and I would be happy to do it…for 30 people.  I was 37 weeks along and I gave birth two weeks later.  I had a wonderful pregnancy and was never sick the entire time.  So for me, I was ok to host a big dinner party and I felt comfortable doing it. It really depends on how you are feeling and if you think you can handle the work.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

I’m 9 weeks and just hosted a small dinner party last week. The work and prep sucked. The smells of prepping food made me super nauseous, I didn’t really want to eat the dinner, I was tired, etc. 

that said, I still had a very nice time with everyone and overall, I am glad I did it. It took me much longer to get everything ready (I took a couple puke breaks and a couple naps), but it all got done. 

I would do another one in 3 weeks for close friends or family. I wouldn’t exert myself that much for random acquaintances, but people I am very excited to see? Definitely. 

Id suggest outsourcing whatever you can, pre-making whatever you can, and give yourself extra time to account for any naps 🙂 

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

littlebuzz :  You have two little ones battling it out! I’m sure that can make things much worse. 

I know when our little guy starts summersaulting around and being crazy, that alone can make me nauseous lol.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would have died hosting a dinner party at 12 weeks. I had a lot of food aversions, nausea, throwing up still at that time. And I was exhausted. 

Everyone is different though. I just didn’t realize how terrible it could be until I was experiencing it! 

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