Post # 1
This baby is my 2nd, my son is turning 9 years old tomorrow. My Mom and Mother-In-Law offered to throw us a baby shower in August or Sept (due Oct. 9). Would it be bad of me to accept or want one? I’ve heard people refer to 2nd showers as being “gift grabby” and only wanting free stuff. Just curious.
Post # 3
of course it is o.k.! The arrival of this baby isn’t any less special than the first. You just may not need all the same stuff as you did the first time
Post # 4
In my opinion it is totally fine since they offered 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve heard of a second shower being called a “sprinkle” and being smaller than a shower. I think this is 100% acceptable.
Post # 6
With the age difference I think it might appear less like that. There are a lot of different items out there than there were 9 years ago, so I think you will be okay.
Post # 7
I dont really know what the etiquette is, I attended a shower for a second baby but the 1st was a boy and the 2nd was a girl, I dont know if that makes a difference?
Post # 8
Pretty much everyone I know has a baby shower for every baby, regardless of the age between kids. I think this is one of those, “if it’s common in your area/social cirlce, it’s ok to do.” Is it pretty common in your area and with you friends/family?
Post # 9
First of all, if there’s a 9 year age gap then you probably need all new stuff anyways. Most of the things you had used with your first born aren’t considered “safe” anymore (BPA free baby bottles for example).
Secondly, I think it’s silly to say you can’t have a baby shower for your second child. What makes it any more “gift grabby” than for the first? Yeah, if there’s only a few years between the kids and you register for a whole new nursery set just because you want a new one, that’s a little much, but any shower includes gifts!
Thirdly, I don’t care if this was your tenth child and they were all exactly 9 months apart, if people are offering to throw you a shower, I feel like it would be more rude to say no, then it would be to graciously accept it! They want to celebrate the new baby (their new grandchild), why should you take that away from them?
Post # 10
my mother had my sister 8 years after she had me and she had a shower. she then had my other sister ten years later. the third was a late comer lol. she had a shower each time. no one thought anything of it simply because it was so far after any previous showers. And ill be honest here, if i happened to have another child at any point from here on out I would totally accept a shower if one was offered for me. my son is now 6 and I know i have nothing really from when he was a baby.
Post # 11
I think every baby is worth celebrating, and I can’t imagine anyone would think you were gift grabby with your last baby being born 9 years ago! I mean, the whole thing I always found weird about showers is that it seems so much about presents – so in reality, every shower is a bit “gift grabby” right? If for some reason you didn’t need stuff you could always have a gift-less shower, but I bet you need things and if people are willing to throw you one, go for it! No one has to go if they don’t want to.
Post # 12
I think it’s fine, but the whole point of a baby shower IMO is to shower the newly expecting parents with things they will need since the idea of parenting is still foreign and they aren’t prepared for what’s coming.
But I like the idea of showers for 2nd, 3rd, etc. babies, it just needs to be different. Like for example my sister went to the spa with family and friends for her 3rd. You could throw a little party in honor of your new baby so it’s a little more low key than a full-out baby shower, but people will still bring gifts.
Post # 13
I’m an etiquette-stickler and I think you are fine, esp with 9 years between the kids 🙂 Congrats!
Post # 14
I had a second shower for my youngest and they are only 4years apart. I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 15
All showers are pretty gift grabby, so I don’t see why this would be any different. I think it’s a cultural thing, in my culture a 2nd shower is a no no, but if it’s the norm I would go for it.
Post # 16
go for it!!! If someone’s offering then graciously accept!