(Closed) 2nd Baby – Is a baby shower acceptable?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is a shower ok if there is a large age difference between the 2 (say 9 years)
    Yes, it's acceptable : (96 votes)
    73 %
    Absolutely not acceptable : (35 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    of course it is o.k.! The arrival of this baby isn’t any less special than the first. You just may not need all the same stuff as you did the first time

    Post # 4
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    In my opinion it is totally fine since they offered 🙂

    Post # 5
    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’ve heard of a second shower being called a “sprinkle” and being smaller than a shower. I think this is 100% acceptable.

    Post # 6
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    With the age difference I think it might appear less like that. There are a lot of different items out there than there were 9 years ago, so I think you will be okay. 

    Post # 7
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I dont really know what the etiquette is,  I attended a shower for a second baby but the 1st was a boy and the 2nd was a girl, I dont know if that makes a difference?

    Post # 8
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Pretty much everyone I know has a baby shower for every baby, regardless of the age between kids.  I think this is one of those, “if it’s common in your area/social cirlce, it’s ok to do.”  Is it pretty common in your area and with you friends/family?

    Post # 9
    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    First of all, if there’s a 9 year age gap then you probably need all new stuff anyways.  Most of the things you had used with your first born aren’t considered “safe” anymore (BPA free baby bottles for example).

    Secondly, I think it’s silly to say you can’t have a baby shower for your second child.  What makes it any more “gift grabby” than for the first?  Yeah, if there’s only a few years between the kids and you register for a whole new nursery set just because you want a new one, that’s a little much, but any shower includes gifts!

    Thirdly, I don’t care if this was your tenth child and they were all exactly 9 months apart, if people are offering to throw you a shower, I feel like it would be more rude to say no, then it would be to graciously accept it!  They want to celebrate the new baby (their new grandchild), why should you take that away from them?

    Post # 10
    6019 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    my mother had my sister 8 years after she had me and she had a shower. she then had my other sister ten years later. the third was a late comer lol. she had a shower each time. no one thought anything of it simply because it was so far after any previous showers. And ill be honest here, if i happened to have another child at any point from here on out I would totally accept a shower if one was offered for me. my son is now 6 and I know i have nothing really from when he was a baby.

    Post # 11
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I think every baby is worth celebrating, and I can’t imagine anyone would think you were gift grabby with your last baby being born 9 years ago! I mean, the whole thing I always found weird about showers is that it seems so much about presents – so in reality, every shower is a bit “gift grabby” right?  If for some reason you didn’t need stuff you could always have a gift-less shower, but I bet you need things and if people are willing to throw you one, go for it!  No one has to go if they don’t want to.

    Post # 12
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it’s fine, but the whole point of a baby shower IMO is to shower the newly expecting parents with things they will need since the idea of parenting is still foreign and they aren’t prepared for what’s coming.

    But I like the idea of showers for 2nd, 3rd, etc. babies, it just needs to be different. Like for example my sister went to the spa with family and friends for her 3rd. You could throw a little party in honor of your new baby so it’s a little more low key than a full-out baby shower, but people will still bring gifts.

    Post # 13
    994 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m an etiquette-stickler and I think you are fine, esp with 9 years between the kids 🙂 Congrats!


    Post # 14
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I had a second shower for my youngest and they are only 4years apart. I don’t see a problem with it.

    Post # 15
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    All showers are pretty gift grabby, so I don’t see why this would be any different. I think it’s a cultural thing, in my culture a 2nd shower is a no no, but if it’s the norm I would go for it.

    Post # 16
    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    go for it!!! If someone’s offering then graciously accept!

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