(Closed) 2nd baby right away?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

The general consensus is that it’s best to give your body at least a year in-between pregnancies so that it can recover. Recent research shows that mothers can have pregnancy-related nutrient deficiencies for up to 10 years after birth, so pregnancy must take a lot out of a gal. While spacing kids 10 years apart is not within reason for most families, the 12 month goal seems a lot more reachable. And you are close to that already!

This LO will be born when I’m 36. We plan to wait at least 12 months before doing our next transfer, but may wait up to 18 months. Part of that is my reluctance to cut nursing short, as I have no idea how my supply will respond to the meds I would need to take for a frozen embryo transfer. It will also depend on how quickly we can save up money for the transfer attempt, as well as on how well (or not) this LO sleeps. If he’s anything like his older brother, we’re in for a rough time of it. FX that this one is an easier child than my first.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I can’t speak from a mother’s stand point but I can say that my sister and I are 1 yr apart in age and I love how close we are. I always had a friend growing up and as adults we’ve gone through things around the same time. It’s a built in best friend for me. Darling Husband and I want to start TTC in Feb and I want to have them back to back. God willing ofc. It does take 6 months for your body to get back to pre pregnancy anatomically so I would say you’re good to TCC again. Best wishes!!!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Plenty of ppl have conceived 6+ months after giving birth without problem. If you feel ready and your doctor/obgyn has given you the ok, why not?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was 6 months old. It wasn’t planned at all, I was actually wanting to wait 3 years. But I’m so glad they are so close in age. They are extremely close, everyone thinks they are twins. When I found out I was pregnant I had a mini panick attack because I thought I would be so overwhelmed. I couldn’t be happier with the way things turned out.  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pappy8:  I originially wanted to TTC again when my son was about 12 months old, even though I know medical professionals recommend waiting 18 months between pregnancies. My period didn’t come back until he was 11 months old, and my first cycle was really long, but after that I think I was fertile again. Well, the time came and I totally changed my mind. My son is 15 months now and still nursing. I don’t want to wean him yet and while I know you can breastfeed while pregnant I just think that would be a LOT on my body. My son is also very busy right now. He wants a lot of attention from me (in a good way, but it is pretty exhausting) and while sleep has gotten much better for us (I commented on your other thread), he still doesn’t sleep through the night regularly so I’m pretty worn out. My husband I decided to wait to TTC until our son turns 2 (next July). Also, I spent some time with a friend of mine recently whose kids are two years and one month apart and it looked really rough. She’s a great mom, too, it just looked HARD. So that cemented my decision to wait but to each their own- I know plenty of people love having kids close in age.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I got pregnant with my 2nd son when my 1st was 6 months.   I wouldn’t advocate for everyone to do it, but with a strong support system, it worked out just fine. From a cost perspective, hand me downs worked well…until the younger one far outgrew the older one.

I had some tired days, but all parents do and I was not overwhelmed Like people might assume. Other people seemed to think that it was worse for me than it was, but the boys are teenagers now and I’m considering having another child or 2 and I want them (if we aim for 2) to be close in age as well. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I got pregnant with #2 just 2.5 months after my son was born. I am 27 weeks along now and as happy as I am about my second son and that my boys will be close in age, getting pregnant that quickly has been ROUGH on my body!! I am sure at 8 months you are in better shape than I was at 2.5, just something to consider. I was not BFing and had 2 periods prior to getting pregnant on the 3rd cycle.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I’ve been taught that 18 months between pregnancies reduces the risk of complication, and there is evidence to back this up. However, there is also (limited) evidence to suggest that a gap of 5 years also increases the risk of complication. I know plenty of women who have had babies with smaller gaps of 18 months between pregnancies and no related complications. I vote for having a good read around the subject whilst checking the reliability of your sources, weigh up the pros and cons and address the risks, and do what’s best for you. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Have time to enjoy your first. PRegnancy literally shifts around the organs in your body so it isn’t a good idea to be doing that TOO often, but if you go to an ob/gyn and they say you’re fine, then you’re fine. I’d definitely recommend a check-up beforehand though. It’s not a light decision to make.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

ehrmac:  Yeahhhhh my organs were definitely not in the right place when I got pregnant again. I did end up with placenta previa and marginal cord insertion. Can’t say for certain that it was caused by the short timeframe between pregnancies, but I wouldn’t be surprised. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Pappy8:  I can’t believe she’s 8 months already! only you can decide when the time is right. around 8-9 months we were starting to feel ready to discuss it again. I’m pregnant with #2 now and they will be 27 months apart. I’m glad we waited longer to start trying because a lot changes between 8 months and the toddler behavior that started around 15 months or so. I am glad we got a handle on this New stage first. But, I think it also would have been easier to deal with the first trimester if she was younger! Regardless, generally doctors advise waiting 18 months for your body to recover but you know your body best. Good luck! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pappy8:  I think if you’re getting your period you shouldn’t have much trouble conceiving but it might be worth charting to find out if things are looking regular. My husband and I were lax about protection until my period returned- then we actively started to prevent again. Kelly mom has some articles about TTC while breastfeeding- they don’t seem to think it’s a problem.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pappy8:  We decided we were ready at 9 months for our next. I was breastfeeding and she was on some solids. I was having periods irregularly. I started using OPKs and I found out that I wasn’t ovulating yet. I would get almost positives and then they would fade out again. I got a positive OPK when she was just over 12 months, and we DTD once and I got pregnant with my second. 

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