2nd time and 44yo…dress ideas? (Pics please)

posted 9 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

This is my second wedding and I went with something more fitted. I’m in my mid 30s and didn’t want anything poofy or over the top. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

1st wedding – mid twenties I wore an a-line strapless.

2nd wedding – older and wiser – cap sleeve trumpet dress. I hacked off the train 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Not a dress suggestion, but a comment – I’m always sad when I see brides asking for recommendations based on their age or whether they’ve been married before.  This is your special day – wear what makes you feel beautiful, and if anyone mentions the phrase ‘age appropriate’, throw them out of the salon!

I got married for the first time this year, mid 40s, and the bridal boutique I went to, the saleswoman said straight off that I ‘couldn’t’ wear sleeveless dresses because of my age!  Now, I didn’t want sleeveless anyway, but I was really annoyed to be told that I ‘couldn’t’.  So wear what you love, regardless!

Post # 6
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Honey bee

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@teaandcake:  exactly!

With that said, I wore a black dress for my second wedding because I wanted to.  

Post # 7
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Newbee

I’m not plannig a second wedding, but a vow renewal (25 years). At my wedding, I was 23 and wore a big Vera Wang ballgown. For the renewal I’m wearing this simple Asos dress. I’m 47 and don’t buy the adage that we’re restricted in our choices! Wear what makes you feel good. 

 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

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@teaandcake:  EXACTLY!  It’s the OP’S FIRST wedding to her husband-to-be

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I had a similar quandary- I was 50 when I got married- I wore this. I really went back and forth- wanting to wear a blue dress; having bought a dress that couldn’t be altered to fit; feeling too old to wear a wedding gown, etc.  in the end, I’m glad I wore this- find something you love and feel comfortable in.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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@robsbeach:  Wow!  You look amazing in that.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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@teaandcake:  awww! Thank you! I appreciate your kind words- the dress thing was a real struggle for me at the time.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

I’m 40!  We were supposed to get married in Hawaii but Corona made it impossible to travel to Kauai.  So we updated our plan to Glacier National park.  I decided to get a new dress to fit the new venue.  So first pic is my beach dress which I plan to sell and my mountain dress haha

 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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@teaandcake:  Couldn’t wear sleeveless? Really? The fact that a consultant said that to you is surprising and sad.

I married for the first time when I was in my mid to late 40s, and I am also plus size.

I ended up choosing a strapless, drop-waist ball gown. I had always wanted a ball gown and was inspired to explore strapless dresses after one of my friends chose a strapless ball gown for her own wedding. She was a first time bride at 45.

OP, whatever you choose, I hope that you will love what you select. I’m sure you will look beautiful! Best wishes on your upcoming marriage!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I’ll play! I’m 39 and will be 40 when I’m married, and this is the wedding dress I picked: scoop neck, trumpet satin. It looks so regal and beautiful. My mom said that it ages me somewhat, makes me look like a woman rather than a young girl – to which I said, I am a woman! In abstract, I love super elaborate wedding gowns, and was surprised that I chose the elegant style so decisively. I’ll also have an overskirt, made out of big ruffly flowers (tulle in the picture), and the dress will have detachable long sleeves (satin) – comfort & warmth are #1. This is a custom dress by a local designer. There was no way I would have all my chest and upper back exposed: it’s not necessary, it’s not flattering, my normal clothing doesn’t (and whose clothing does?) so why should my wedding dress?  Maybe being older means you can be more confident in advocating for what you want. I’m also including a collage of several other wedding dresses I tried on, it’s really stark how much better my choice looks 

 

 

 

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Newbee

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@pyre10:  You look gorgeous! You really made the perfect choice. And you’re right, being older means being more confident in advocating for yourself and knowing what you want. Congrats on your upcoming nuptuals! 

OP, I also wanted to recommend Reformation–they have some really lovely and sophisticated looks: https://www.thereformation.com/categories/brides

And of course BHLDN: https://www.bhldn.com/?utm_medium=a_ref&utm_source=anthro_en-us&utm_campaign=navigation&utm_term=link&utm_content=bhldn

 

I really wanted a BHLDN gown but wasn’t willing to splurge so much on just a vow renewal. 

 

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