Post # 1
Hi Ladies. I was having a discussion with my mother the other day about going into labour for my second child which is due in 2 months.
What struck me is that everywhere in pop culture, and also from other mums, I hear that woman have this magical hormone that makes them forget the pain and trauma of child birth. Which in theory makes us go back again and again and perhaps again.
I am curious, am I just missing this magical hormone, or are there others out there who can also quite easily remember the pain? I wouldnt say my first labour was difficult, the hardest thing was that the nurses sedated me because they felt I was to tired to deal with the contractions. This slowed my labour right down, and made it draw out for just over 26 hours. Other then that, I expect that everything I experienced was pretty normal.
I would agree that my daughter was worth the pain of birth and also the discomfort while recovering. But that has not erased all recollection of the experience from my memory. And I find myself more scared 2nd time around then I was with my first. I believe its because I can remember it all quite clearly and know what I am in for.
Have any of you experienced this as well?
Post # 3
Oh, I remember it vividly. The only birth experience that doesn’t still make me wince is my third’s – and that’s because he was a scheduled C-section. Kids 2 & 3 were also nasty recoveries as they were both C-section kids.
I think, for the sake of the continuation of the species, some woman have to pretty it up – and for the sake of other mom’s sanity some of us have to tell it like it is!
Post # 4
Wow. I am a pretty skiddish person and am allergic to pain. I had a horrible situation (9 days in hospital, pre eclampsia, emergency c section after over a day of labor with pitocin) and I didn’t think it was that painful.
My c section wasn’t painful, but wierd. I did not like being awake and coherent. I asked to be put under truthfully. I didn’t want to be awake and feel them pushing on me (no pain at all, just pushing and pulling sensation) and didn’t want to read my own vitals like I do for my patients at work.
I must’ve been a horrid patient.
Anyway, it wasn’t that bad. I have to say that my labor pain just felt like having to go to the restroom really badly. That’s all. Then the initial sting of the numbing shot for the epidural. That was pretty much the worst of it. I think having them draw my blood levels every so often for 3 days straight was the worst of it (for the preeclampsia). Birth part wasn’t that bad. Surgery I had on my foot from an old high school cheerleading accident was imho much more painful.
I’m a realist. It had its unpleasant moments, but overall wasn’t entirely painful for me. I was never screaming in any pain. I took medicines, all they offered btw. And my c section scar is basically invisible btw. Baby was small, but he’s amazing and almost 12 years old now! Not sure if we’ll try for one now, but it wouldn’t freak me out if i did get pregnant again.
Post # 5
I didnt have an epidural or c section. There was no way I was going to have an epidural, the thought of a Lumbar Puncture is worse then the thought of labour. The only pain relief I was given was gas while they were stitching my tear.
I shared a room with women on the ward who had had either an epidural or a c section and I was glad that I hadn’t as I seemed to recover quicker and was able to move around easier.
I can still remember hanging over the head of the bed trying to put pressure on my stomach to combat the contractions as they were coming over each other. I have a very low pain threshold, I am not into pain at all. And its the memories of the later stages of labour and the pushing that is still worrying me.
I also have a fear of child birth because of a very petite asian lady that my sister shared a hospital room with. Her religious views would not allow for a csection. She gave birth to a boy that looked like he was 6 months old he was so large. His shoulders got stuck and the doctor had to cut her both ways to get him out. She would lay in her bed and cry all day from the pain. The thought of that scared me throughout my first pregnancy and still scares me today.
Post # 6
I do still remember it, but I would say that time puts a “rosier glow” on it…does that make sense?
I can say that I didn’t want to do it all again anytime right after my first birth, but now (8 years later) I’m prepared and ready for it all to happen.