Post # 1
Hi Everyone, this is my first post on WeddingBee.
Brief intro: I am Lena and my “fiance” is Isaac. I use quotations marks becuase we know we are getting married, we have a date, but I am still waiting for the official proposal and ring (he’s waiting for the right moment). We did things a bit backwards because we had to pick a date quickly as I was accepted to a nursing program and we want to get married before 15 months of Hell start 🙂
This will be my 2nd marriage (his first) and we want to do something that’s just a smidge more inclusive than eloping (although not by much). I want to have a little ceremony with close fam/friends followed by a sit down dinner at a restaurant.
First things first – we need an officiant. We have NO MONEY so it would have to be someone very affordable, but we don’t want someone terrible. We aren’t very picky in terms of ceremony we just know we want it somewhere outside in Manhattan or the Bronx (that’s free of course).
Anyone have an officiant recc? I have a ton more questions, but I figured this was a good place to start. Thanks!
Post # 3
When your title said 0 budget I thought it meant No budget lol! Your on a super tight budget! When are you guys planning a the wedding? How much money do you think you can save up from not until then? Do you have any family that can help you? You could do an elopment and celebrate later with family. Have a backyeard bbq… there are lot os options.
Post # 4
First, congrats and welsome! You could try and have a friend or family member officiate, I’m doing that. You can get ordained online for about $40. It’s intimate and much more affordable than some of the other officiants out there (I was quoted upwards of $300). Make sure you check local laws to see if they need any other certification from the city.
Post # 5
When I say zero I mean as close to nothing as possible! I am starting school 5 days after the wedding and all my $ is going towards books, uniform, equipment, etc. I am also quitting my job so I’ll have zero income.
Having a friend officiate is not a bad idea. We have one friend who is ordained, but we decided that we wouldn’t be able to take it seriously if he were doing it. Haha!
We really can’t spend money on this wedding and our families are not in the position to help. Nor would I impose upon my parents even if they could since it’s wedding #2 for me. We are not the “traditional” sort so we don’t mind this being a very different kind of wedding.
We’d like to do dinner after the ceremony in order to include a few more family members who won’t be taking part in the ceremony. As we cannot afford to pay for everyone’s meal, we’d simply reserve a room at a restaurant that offers a prix fixe meal and ask everyone to pay for themselves in leui of wedding gifts. Is this extremely tacky or do you think people would be understanding? I could easily recruit my dad as the money collector (probably before the day to avoid any tackiness). This is the part that worries me the most, but we simply cannot afford to pay for 30+ people’s meals.
The “after party” is one thing we have nailed down. My fiance’s friend owns an awesome rooftop bar in midtown and will be closing it to the public for a few hours for us. The bar will be a normal cash bar and everyone we know is invited to drop by. We have a caterer friend providing some light snacks and a baker friend will be donating a cake. Having a lot of friends in various professions helps!
My other anxiety is finding something affordable to wear and figuring out where I can get my hair done affordably. My “maids of honor” had already offered to cover the cost for bouquets. So sweet of them!
Post # 6
and thank you, ladies, for your suggestions. Sorry my posts are so long! I’m feeling a lot of non-wedding wedding anxiety!
Post # 7
Ok i looked it up and to have an ordained minister marry you in NYC it’s more compicated here is how it tells you how to do it http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/officiants_requirements/index.shtml
but if it is more work then you want maybe do something where in the morning you get married at the court house then later in the day do a small ceramoney in the Park and have a friend do that way it’s legal and you don’t have to do the extra work.
Post # 8
I very highly recommend our officiant. We used Rev. Randi Peck (http://www.theministerdiva.com), and she was incredble. Depending on what you are looking for, I believe she has rates as low as around $100 if you go to her. Otherwise, I think her elope package was $250 in Manhattan with custom ceremonies starting at $400. I got a lot of reallylow quotes in the $100-200 range, but it depends on what you’re looking for. Ultimately, we decided that this was one of the areas we wanted to put more of our money toward so it ended up being second highest on our final budget (after attire). But it was well worth the money to us because the ceremony was one of the most important things for us. If you are looking for lower prices, I actually was surprised to see some of the specials on craigslist for very low if you just want a very basic vows only ceremony. I would just recommend checking references and calling the marriage bureau to make sure you don’t have problems if you go that route. Good luck and feel free to message me if you want more details.