(Closed) 2nd Wedding – Using Same Wedding Band that Holds Special Meaning

posted 7 years ago in Encore
  • poll: Would you use the ring that holds special meaning to you?
    Yes, as the special meaning relates to your Grandmother, not your previous marriage : (32 votes)
    53 %
    No : (21 votes)
    35 %
    Other (explain below) : (7 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would switch her ring to your right hand. it just seems like really bad vibes to use the same wedding band from a failed marriage. what does your fi think?

    Post # 4
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My immediate thought was ‘no freakin’ way.’ lol, but after reading your post, I can definitely see where you’re coming from. I would just make sure you propose the idea to your Fiance in the same way that you wrote the post, and I’m sure he’ll be fine with it, too.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would see how your Fiance felt about it first. Since it was your grandmothers band, i can see why you would still want to wear it, but it was your wedding band for a past marriage so i could also understand why your Fiance might feel uncomfortable with it. So talk to him. And if he doesnt like te idea, maybe you can wear the band on your other hand.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @kitzy: Was going to say the same thing.  Wear it as a right hand ring and get a band that represents your marriage.

    Post # 7
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Although I can see what you’re saying, I still think “no freakin’ way”.  I’d get a new wedding band for this marriage and then you can wear your grandmother’s ring as a right hand ring.  I would never re-use a wedding band from a failed marriage – no matter what other significance it may hold.

    Post # 8
    Member
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Eh, I don’t see a biggie to it.  I understand where the other bees are coming from, but for me, I understand and I would wear it.  ONLY if my Fiance would be okay with it.  (and knowing my Fiance, I would be wearing it on my right hand and NOT be using it as my wedding band).  He would def not be okay with that.

    But, talk to your Fiance first … that’s really the main thing.  The wedding band is supposed to make up the both of you.  Good luck!

    Post # 9
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i think its fine because it holds meaning to you – my sister recieved my grandmothers engagement ring when she passed, its a beautiful 1ct diamond. when my sister got married she had her then husband have it set in a setting of his choice – they divorced in 2005. She now has it enclosed in casing on a very thin necklace but has talked about getting it set into an e-ring with her current boyfriend (they just had a baby)

    To me it signifies my grandmother more than her previous marriage – its her ring and no matter the person she is with it will always be hers.

    Post # 10
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    i would say switch it to your right hand, since it holds special meaning for you as relates to your grandmother/ her marriage, and not necessarily for your upcoming marriage. that way, it is still a part of you/ your jewelry, but it doesn’t bring the past marriage into your new marriage.

    Post # 11
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    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m not sentimental about many things, so I say go for it! It’s just a ring, and clearly has more connection to your grandmother than your first marriage to you.

    BUT (and it’s a big one) I think you’ll need to honor how your new husband feels about it. If he doesn’t care, great go for it. If he does move her ring over as a right hand ring, and get a new ring for the new marriage.

    There’s is a third option (and it definitely depends on how sentimental YOU are about things) where you melt down the original and have it recast in a new ring. That way you get to keep the “metal” that forged that first marriage (your grandmother’s) but it’s a new ring to suit your husband.

    Let us know how it works out!

    Post # 12
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    7416 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Its completely up to your Fiance. After reading your explaination, I kinda get it but our thoughts really don’t have place when its all about your fiance.

    Post # 13
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    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think I would just wear it on your right hand. I think you should have a new wedding band.

    Post # 14
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Talk to your Fiance and see what he says.  I’d probably just wear it on my right hand.

    Post # 16
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    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @kitzy: That’s what I was going to say.  I would be really uncomfortable with that, and I don’t know any man that wouldn’t be, either.

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