- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My husband (G) and I are very very lucky to live and be close to his mother, my dad, and my mom and step father- we all reside roughly 30 minutes away from one another. Until this year, my fiance at the time and I were living at my father’s to save up for a house. So for the past few years our schedule would look like this:
Christmas Eve: Dinner with G, me, Dad, sister, and some extended family.
7-9: Christmas with Dad
10-2: Christmas with my mom and stepdad
3-7: Christmas with his mom and family.
This year, I really really really don’t want to wake up early to drive up and see my father for a few hours (especially since we will have spent the day before with him) to drive another thirty minutes to see my mother and from them another 30 to see my mil). So I was figuring this type of schedule:
Christmas Eve: Dinner and Christmas celebration with G, me, Dad, sister and extended family (they leave earlier so we’d still be able to do the celebration with just the four of us)
7-9: Wake up, drink some coffee, open our presents to one another- basically a nice and slow start:
10-2: Christmas with mom and step dad
3-7: Christmas with Mother-In-Law.
Eventually when we have kid(s), G and I plan to just stay at home on Christmas day and invite everyone to come over at any time if they so wish. We’ll probably have food buffet style so everyone that comes can be well fed. But for now, this is just a delightful dream. But back to reality…
Okay- so my questions are:
1. Is it mean to not spend time with my father on Christmas? I love him and part of me feels like he’d be a little dissapointed… but the other part of me knows for a fact that he’s not into holidays as much as I tend to give him credit for. So maybe I’m just guilting myself. Is the whole day of Christmas Eve enough- it’ll be certainly more than what our other two sets of parents are getting on the actual Christmas day. (Also, my father is the only one who celebrates anything on Christmas Eve- it’s a family tradition- the other two parent’s would never agree.)
2. Those with close family (both figuratively and literally), how do you handle your holidays?