Post # 1
I originally asked my younger/only sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I also have two “twin” cousins who I’ve grown up with since I was a baby. The four of us are pretty much inseparable and have lived on the same street for as long as I can remember (which makes us even closer)! Regardless of whatever title they’re given, my cousins without a doubt would help plan the bridal shower/bachelorette and basically everything else I need help with (from invites to favors to centerpieces). In addition to those 3, I also have 3 more bridesmaids (a good friend and 2 FSILs).
My fiance has recently decided to ask 2 of his friends to be co-best men (because he likes the idea of having two speeches), but one of those friends isn’t nearly as close to him as the other. [It’s too late for him to change his mind] ……. Anyway, I don’t feel right not asking my cousins (who are the closest people in the world to me) to not be honor attendants when my Fiance has a best man standing by him who is not nearly as close. It’s not just that… I’ve been struggling with this issue for awhile. Even when I first asked my girls back in December, I wrote “Will you be my bridesmaid (with co-MOH duties)?” on their cards. I’m just so torn about what to do that I haven’t written any titles on my wedding website for any of my BMs.
I know it’s not traditional to have THREE maids of honor… but will it be completely crazy? Three MOHs and two best men? And is it weird that there’s the same amount of MOHs as there are bridesmaids?
Post # 3
You can have as many MOHs as you want, although they arent all gonna get to do all the Maid/Matron of Honor duties at the same time. But no one will really notice or be bothered by the numbers
Post # 4
Hey, it’s your wedding! You get to do whatever you want! I say go for it!
Post # 5
They are probably going to do the same thing no matter what you call them and they don’t really get anything for being Maid/Matron of Honor instead of a bridesmaid but you can do whatever you want.
Post # 6
Do what you want! Im having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. My Fiance is only having one best man and 2 groomsmen.
Post # 7
I’m in the “it’s your day do what you want” camp.
Post # 8
You can do whatever you want. To me it takes away the honor and just ends up saying “indecisive bride” when I see more than one Maid or Matron of Honor.
Post # 9
I was one of three MOHs in a wedding about a year ago. The bride also had 2 BMs. It was totally fine. The bride, me, and the other two MOHs were all super close, so it was sort of a no-brainer for the bride to have all 3 of us be her MOHs. If anyone thought it was strange, they didn’t mention it. Do what you want. It’s your day.
Post # 10
My situation is the same as you mentioned. We’re known as “the 4 girls” to everyone we know and have always done everything together. It’s hard to separate us and to choose only one to be my Maid/Matron of Honor (even though the default would be my sister).
But thank you all so much for your input! I’ve decided to ask the other two girls tomorrow. I know the title doesn’t change how helpful they’ll be, but it makes me sooo much happier to know that all three of them will be standing up as my MOHs (however indecisive it seems to my guests). Thanks!!