Post # 1
Well I don’t know where to really begin but I’m at my wits end with this wedding planning.
i suffer from spondylosis and have only ventured outside the house twice in over a year and I’m in extreme pain every minute of every day.
i moved over to Northern Ireland from Scotland 8 years ago and haven’t made much friends.
ive dreamt of this day for so long but this is not how I was expecting it to be, I have managed to buy and organise the whole wedding not a single bit of help from anyone or even a bit of advice.
im not an ungreatful person or the type to dismiss someone’s ideas so I can’t think why no one is helping or at least showing a bit of interest.
as I’ve said it’s only 3 months till the wedding and I’ve still got lots to do, my partner has a brother and sister and his parents a and still not even a suggestion or offer to help me out with things, they know how much pain I’m in..financially I don’t know how I’m going to be able to get the rest of the stuff in and pay for other things I need, if I cancel I’ve wasted £2500 which is a massive amount f money, I’m sooo fed up
Post # 3
I’d first remember that at the end of the day, the only important thing is that you’re married. Party stuff if just fluff and fun. If you need to let a few things slide, I wouldn’t stress over it.
Maybe no one knows that you want help? Have you asked? Some people are just really clueless. Don’t be afraid to ask people for help. They might just think it’s “your day” and not want to offend you by offering to help. Don’t be afraid to be honest and tell them you’re in a lot of physical pain and feeling overwhelmed. They will be your family soon too.
Has your fiance been helping? I’d be enlisting his help for everything! You guys should be a team.
Post # 4
@christinamarie980: yeah I know what your saying, I just can’t help feeling that maybe they think I’m not good enough
To be fair though I haven’t asked for anyone’s help but it seems like when I talk to them about the wedding it’s in one ear and out the other.
Mother-In-Law is giving £500 which I’m delighted with but I’d rather she be a bit supportive and forthcoming with suggestions.
ive lots of diy projects to get done so that it looks nice without costing a fortune and all everyone keeps saying is …YOU’LL GET THERE LOL
my partner has been great helping with our boys whilst I get things organised (apperntly men are useless as these things).
i feel like there is too much on my mind, ahh I dunno Im not blaming my partner in anyway as he does everything for me I just wish I had a lil help
Post # 5
I’d go out on a limb and ask. The worst they can do is say no, and then you have your answer at least.
Maybe you can turn the craft projects into a bit of a party? Invite people over, order some pizza or Chinese, and then crank those things out!