Post # 1
I created this account specifically to write this post in hopes that someone will have some advice. I am having serious dress regret and my wedding is at the end of this month (Feb. 2012).
Some background – my fiance and I got engaged a couple years ago, but only recently chose our wedding date 4 months ago. So, basically that meant that I had to buy my dress off the rack (no time to order one). I am a plus size girl and heard a lot of negative stories about plus size girls trying to find dresses off the rack and being quite unsucessful – so, I kind of put it off until earlier this month. Yeah, I know… not a great idea. Anyways, my first dress fitting experience was terrible. No one helped me figure out my actual size, so all the dresses I pulled didn’t fit, then when someone DID eventually help me, she could only find ONE dress in the entire store that fit me (I’m a size 18). After trying on so many dresses, having none fit, feeling defeated, and pretty crappy, I ALMOST broke down and bought the one dress that fit me… just cause it fit me. But, I didn’t (thankfully!). I went home feeling pretty crappy and huge and hating myself pretty hard.
The second appointment I had at a different bridal shop was a lot better. They had several dresses to choose from in my size off the rack – however none of them made me feel amazing, and none of them were wanted I envisioned (lace/ivory/ruffles etc) except one. It had a bit of beaded lace near the bust. At the time, I felt pretty ok in it, and thought that since I didnt’ have much time left until my actual wedding date (the end of this month… yikes), and since I knew my choices were limited because of my size and that I had to buy off the rack, I went with this dress even though I didn’t love it. The price was great as well. I got straps added to it, and called it done.
Now, 3 weeks away from my wedding… I’m feeling a lot of dress regret and am quite mad at myself that I feel like I settled for something that just FIT on me and doesn’t actually look good. Looking at photos of the dress now I can’t even tell if it’s flattering.. or not flattering.. or what! I cannot return it, I don’t have the budget for a new dress either. So basically I have to wear it as is.
I accept that I bought the dress and am stuck with it, but I am wondering if anyone has advice on how I can alter it in some way to be more flattering? I dunno… maybe adding some kind of lace over the shoulder straps.. or a back? Would a sash work on a dress like this? I don’t know what to do to so that I can at least like it more, since I’m stuck with it. Help?
Post # 3
I think that your dress is very flattering and pretty. I just think that you need to have the length adjusted, but that is easy, you could even do that by just adding a crinoline. Is there something that you specifically think is lacking in the dress or something that you specifically don’t like about the dress?
Post # 4
What exactly is bothering you about the dress? Would you feel better about it if you maybe wore some sort of bolero with it? Maybe cap sleeves? Or if you embellshed it with some sort of rhinestone belt or brooch? I actually think it looks really pretty as is, but if you made any of those changes I’m sure it would still look great. Also, what are you accesorizing it with? That can always change the look of the dress a lot.
Post # 5
Honestly I think you look great in this dress! Its a flattering fit. A sash would be too much with the beading up top. If you want to give it a little something extra maybe try a crinoline or something under it to give it more shape in the skirt?
Post # 6
Thanks for replying. I’m not wearing shoes in the photo, so with shoes it won’t drag on the ground as much. I don’t really like it because I don’t think it’s very flattering on my body – I don’t really have a regular waist.. my waist is very high and I got love handles going on. I know that I probably judge myself a lot more than other people do though. I think maybe if the dress was more interesting or had more personality that I’d like it a lot more, but not sure how to do this?
Post # 7
I think it looks really great on you! A little hem and some steaming and it’s good to go. It fits, its flattering and its a pretty dress! I know all about dress regret! I promise on that day with you hair, makeup and some accessories you will feel absolutely beautiful.
Post # 8
Can you NOT wear the shoulder straps? I think the dress is beautiful and as a PP said, quite flattering actually. I think the shoulder straps look a bit strange but it is easy to fix. If the dress won’t stay up without them then wear a bustier underneath the dress and have it pinned inside to the top of the dress. Voila!
Post # 9
@billiem: I know all about love handles, I have them too. Some spanks will help hide those (even though I don’t see them on you) and I think the dress gives you a nice waist. I agree with totheislands, I think that once you get everything on, your jewelry, your hair done, your veil, your make up, you will see a whole new dress in the mirror. Sometimes it is about the total package, rather than just a piece of the puzzle.
Post # 10
Lilllindy – Yes, I think I would feel better with a bolero of some kind. Not sure what kind of style would work best though. I was looking at these on Etsy:
For jewelry I was just going to wear something simple on the neck and then a chunkier pearl/rhinestone bracelet.
ViaMinorViator – those shiny straps in the picture are actually from the bra I was wearing, they aren’t the straps from the dress. I got them to add thin, white, spaghetti straps to the dress later on (which you can’t see in the photos, sorry bout that).
Post # 11
You look great! Wear some blingy earings, headband, flower, bracelet or shoes!
Post # 12
I am going to be honest
you need a more supportive bra – that will change the whole look of the dress – I really like the dress and if you wear a long line bustier you can nix the clear plastic straps and it will really show off your gorgeous figure
Post # 13
I think this looks so good!! I would nix the tiny straps though but I seriously think you look great, gives you an awesome hourglass figure! 🙂
Post # 14
you mentioned that you wanted lace. I don’t know if you need to wear the shoulder straps or not for support (I know I can’t get away without them) but what about adding a cute lace bolero? Many bridal stores carry cute little lace jackets or lace sweater type things, Another easy fix would be to either add or take away the poofyness. you could add a crenoline or press whatever is curently in the dress to be much flatter (my sister is a plus-ish sized girl and she loved the look of sheath dresses but coudln’t find one so she just literally cut the poof out of her dress) only for the truely committed.
Post # 15
The dress is very pretty on you. I was wondering do you have a longline bra? I say this because i’m a 36FF and I see clear strap. The Goddess collection would work wonders your top half. Below are some links to order the bra
Post # 16
What about addingn some kind of lace to the top of the dress? Something like in these photos?