Post # 1
Well the SO & I have our three year anniversary tomorrow. I will be honest, I expect nothing to come of this. I’ll wake up waiting & go to bed still waiting. The weird thing is..I’m ok with that.
I even had decided almost a year ago that this was my cut off day. The day when I would step back and start focusing on other things. Move on with my life rather than keeping it on hold like I have for the past few years. I don’t mean break up I just mean, go find a teaching job and not be worried about what city it’s in. Go home to visit my family more often and stay longer. Go out with my single friends frequently again.
The truth is though, I don’t want to do any of those things. If I feel that I need to do any of those things for my own sanity I will when that time comes. I’m content in my waiting at the moment. I don’t know if it’s coming from a healthy place or if I’m in mental survival mode.
Either way I love my SO with all my heart & I’m looking forward to our anniversary not dreading it like I thought I might.
Guess I just needed to get all that out there! =]
Post # 3
Yay – a happy waiting post. I’m so glad you’re feeling like this. I hope you have a fab day even if you don’t get a ring 🙂
Post # 4
have you read mr. bees plan? all those things you don’t want to do- take your life off of hold, see your friends and live your life? that’s what you’re supposed to be doing. get out there and take a class, see your friends & family, develop a lapsed hobby. DO SOMETHING besides waiting for someone to pick you!
i was in this cycle, tho less waiting for the ring and more waiting for a firm commitment. i just backed off. stopped making him my # 1 priority and started making ME the #1 priority. he came running as fast as can be (we’re talking about 3 weeks) and we are now planning to move in together. this commitment hasn’t changed my behavior, tho. i realize that what is attractive is that i have something else going on and i’m not just waiting for him for ANYTHING.
you are the prize and he should be chasing you down, trying to pin you down.
Post # 5
I’m glad your in a good waiting position at the moment, your absolutely right, your with a man you love and it will happen in time, sooner or later so just enjoy the ride 🙂