Post # 31
Damn, good for you! It’s rare to see bees actually end toxic relationships. I’m glad you now see what all the bees immediately saw from your posts. Take this time to heal and realize he was never good for you. In the future date someone who is 100% available and doesn’t have so much baggage that you have to martyr yourself for like a PP mentioned. And please remember that becoming a wife isn’t like winning a medal at the end of a race. Let your relationship develop organically and everything will fall in place. Don’t subject yourself or your daughter to supbar situations in order to win the prize of becoming a wife. Good luck.
Post # 32
Good for you! That took a lot of courage. I’m so glad you see that you deserve better.
Post # 33
“No its a piece of jewelry, but you can see it as an engagement ring if you want to”
Harrrrd eye roll. What does that even MEAN?
Good for you for moving on. It’s hard to do, but you’re absolutely doing the best thing for yourself and you’re daughter. You deserve better.
Post # 34
You go bee!! So proud of you for getting out. Keep your head up, you did the right thing. You will find someone and you have now taken your life back. Good for you! Cut him off 100% and block him everywhere you can. Lots of hugs bee! You deserve so much more.
Post # 35
But did you take the family heirloom with you as a big FUCK YOU! 🤣
Post # 36
beejaymes : I aspire to this level of pettiness before I leave this earth.
Post # 37
My ex-hole hubby was not ready to marry but he did out of pressure. Some from me, some from our families. End of the day, it ended. And it ended BADLY. And, there is a baby in the mix!
So, moral of the story is, stop beating yourself up for this guy. He seems like a complete idiot. He has no respect for you. He used you for selfish reasons to either make his wife jealous that he has this supposedly ‘happy life’ with you. Or, he’s afraid to be alone after having lost EVERYTHING: marriage, kids, money, sanity, etc.
He needs to go to therapy and you need to get out of this relationship. It will take a long time for him to get over whatever he needs to get over. By then you will get older and angrier. Fortunately, you only have the one child of your own. It’s VERY HARD to single parent, but it is doable. (I have to do it.)
You will save yourself months and years of agony.
Post # 38
beejaymes : YES. I did take the ring. But I am thinking of giving it back if he or his mother asks for it. I do not want KARMA knocing on my door . Its been 3 weeks and so far no one has asked for it.
Post # 39
DoubleD : I see what you are saying but I wanted marriage because I wanted kids. This man is already 45. In my mind we were going to be engaged for 1.5 years. Then try for kids and sometimes that doesn’t always happen right away for everybody. So in my head it would have taken 1.5years + 9 months for the baby to actually come and maybe + 3 months of trying, and BOOM. By then he would have been 48-49 maybe. To me, that is too old.
Anyway my reasons are not valid. I really believe that he would have NEVER given me those things, I didn’t see the signs at the time. Now that we are no longer together I see them clear as day.