Post # 1
I just received an online RSVP saying a 3 year old ordered a grilled ribeye vs the kid’s meal option of chicken tenders. There is another kid (5 yrs) in the family who did get the chicken tenders. I’m emailing them to see if there was an error and to confirm what the younger one wants.
I’m hoping that it was an error ($20 difference plus the fact that it is a STEAK for a toddler!). If it isn’t an error….do I let them do it or request (force) them to chose the kid’s?
My parents, who are paying for the wedding, think it’s a little rediculous and don’t agree with it. The guests are from my fiance’s side and he doesn’t want to offend them (especially if they give a generous gift while we squabble over $20).
What do you think?
Post # 3
Umm. That’s weird. I’d be a little afraid a 3-year-old might choke on steak.
If you want to force them to choose the kid’s meal, I guess you could say something like, “Oh, I’m so sorry this wasn’t more clear on the invitation, but all children will be getting the kid’s meal of chicken tenders.”
Post # 4
Or…this is kind of sneaky…you could just put the kid down for chicken tenders without mentioning anything to the parents, and when the day arrives, act like you have no idea why little Johnny didn’t get his steak.
Post # 5
no no no no no! I would tell them that there are adult meals and there are kid meals. They probably just will feed their kid before the event and then eat the extra plate. That’s dirty.
Post # 6
wow that is just weird… I would never let my kid order steak until they were at least 10 LOL. not because I am affraid he/she would choke but that is just rediculous. epecially so young because you never know if they are actually going to eat, that would just be money down the drain. I say, just order the kid chicken and be like “oops!”
Post # 7
I agree with tattoo, they are totally going to dine on a second meal. people are hilarious….in a sad way.
I would just give the kid chicken tenders and not ask them. They can dine on that.
Post # 8
Here’s my guess … they’re planning to split the chicken tenders between the two kids and the dad is looking forward to an extra steak! LOL
Seriously, I would think about “forcing” the issue by doing as @Bubu82 suggests, and assuming it’s an error. But that’s just me; if your Fiance feels strongly, then let it go – it’s just $20 and you’re really not going to care that day!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
@Miss Tattoo: I agree. It sounds like they are being sneaky and want more steak, even though that’s an awful thing to think. I would tell them all kids are getting kids meals.
Post # 10
My parents fed my little sister steak (tenderloin filet, $30+) since she was a toddler. 2 or younger. I always thought it was wasteful, but to each their own.
When I was a kid we were $6 chicken tenders type children.
Post # 11
I am sorry, but personally I think that it would be rude to say something.
Post # 12
My FH has a 2 1/2 yr old and I could see us ordering steak instead of a chicken kid plate for him. He is a picky eater and will eat beef almost every time but will rarely eat chicken, and never chicken nuggets, dino bites, or tenders. He won’t choke on it but you could confirm if you think it is an error. If there was clearly no option and all kids where getting the chicken kid plate, we would bring food that he would eat or not come.
I don’t know how to make this not sound bad, but can I ask why they were given an option if they really don’t have one? Sorry if that sounds rude, I really am just wondering.
Post # 13
Just to place devil’s advocate on this one…
a) Could have been a mistake.
b) Was chicken tenders the only kid’s meal option? Maybe there is some kind of gluten or chicken allergy? Would it possible to offer up a different kid’s option for them?
Post # 14
Wow. The only way my 5 year old gets steak is if we share or there is a kid steak on the menu. I’d never make someone else pay for her to eat steak though. I’d just say sorry for the confusion, but all the children are being served chicken strips and the adults have a choice.
Post # 15
Point the first: As a 3-year-old, I totally would have been down with gobbling up a steak.
Point the second: Totally agree with the other posters that it is MOST LIKELY the parents trying to get an extra meal.
Point the third: You offered the choice. It is not your place to say “Oh, sorry, we never really thought anyone would have the audacity to CHOOSE the steak over the chicken tenders! I mean, it’s $20 extra! So, umm…we’re not going to let you have it.”
So basically, I get that it’s probably just stupid parents, but it could be that she’ll actually eat the steak. But most importantly, you wouldn’t try to micro-manage your adult guests’ meal choices, so why are you doing it for this kid?
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
What, are they trying to get their money’s worth?
Give the kids the kids’ meal. 3- and 5-year-olds don’t want adult meals.