- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
so this will be lengthy and (I think) drama free. I want to just offer up the information and you gals can help me out 🙂
~ a part-time firefighter and works with his dad making great money when he can
~ almost 23 years old
~ still living at home because he doesn’t see why he would waste money on rent when he gets everything for free (makes sense to me because I live part-time at their home when I’m not away at school and its great…but not great when we’re in dire need of privacy)
A little about me:
~ nanny on weekends (make $25/hr) so I make a pretty good chunk of change here and there
~ 22 years old
~in my final year of school. I have one more quarter left then student teaching for one quarter (i’ll graduate in june 2012) with Elementary Ed degree
Some info on us:
~ been dating for 3.5 years
~ my family loves him and his family is in love with me (they tell me and him ALL the time)
~ We have the same plan for what we want; just different opinions on when it’ll all happen
~ I want to be engaged now and plan to be married in September of 2012 (My ridiculiously spoiled aunt got engaged this summer after knowing her fiance for 1 month…they met on match…and decided to plan their wedding for July 2012 which is what SO and I have been talking seriously about for months) *She is 2 years older than me
~ After 3.5 years he says he’s ready one second but then not the second. He swears he’s ready but then he says he needs just a couple more months (WHAT IS HE WAITING FOR?!)
~ Because we’re just starting out in careers, we have limited money and don’t have anything to furnish our own place with. I have made completely clear and (I thinK) valid points on why I want to be engaged this month. Our families do not believe that a couple is serious unless they are engaged and without seeming selfish and shallow, I believe that by announcing our engagement now and having the oppurtunity to acquire home things for xmas presents (they wont buy anything unless they know our plan) we should try and take advantage of as many benefits as we can. This would also give us 10 months from today for our engagement. We will have to pay for the whole wedding ourselves (while my family spends $50,000+ on my aunts wedding) so we might not even do any elborate wedding.
~ His mother babies him to the point where I want to wring her neck (she is an amazing woman and mother and we get along great but she has isms like that that drive me crazy). We’re at dinner and she’s telling SO that she is excited for him to possibly have a more stable part-time job by 2014. I’m sorry but there is no way that boy is gonna be living at his parents in another 6 months let alone 2 years! and he better have some sort of full time job in the next 6 months. She just married off his older sister 2 years ago and is having a very hard time allowing her kids to have their own lives.
*He wants to move in together sooooooooooo bad and begs me every day, and I said put a ring on it and set a date and then we’ll talk about it. I’m planning to sign a lease and find a roomate in march and if not engaged by new years, I will not be moving in with him and he will have missed out.
*He is constantly asking me about wedding stuff, rings, on pinterest asking me what I like, designing home with me…i’m not pressuring him…he’s teasing me!!
Given this information…Is asking to be engaged before thanksgiving 2012 too much to ask?!