Post # 1
Hello. This will be my first. I want to start out by saying that I have been engaged for about 3 months and literally three days after the engagement I began planning for the wedding and it has been anything but smooth sailing from there. Here are some of the things I have dealt with in a short period of tim:
*fighting with my younger brother over wedding dates (he decided to just pick a date out of the air and claim it as his….cause grown ups still call dibs I guess)
*dealing with a mother who wants it to be her wedding all over again and is beyond negative at any idea she does not like even if I do
*dealing with a future mother in law about her son converting
*picking out a wedding dress, purchasing it, and hating it the next day with no way of returning it and now figuring out how to make back the money
*the fiance being MIA starting Sept 24 until the end of July 2013 due to heavy duty schooling
*budgetting everything I can so we have enough money for our wedding
*finding out a big chunk of our friends would rather go to a DMB concert then come to our wedding
*the fiances parents pretty much putting no money in which leaves it up to us to foot the majority of the bill
*the stress is overwhelming and I still have over 11 months left
*the urge to elope is amazing and grows each day
I will go into more detail later on, but I can honestly say I was looking forward to planning my wedding, until I actually had to deal with other people, now it is nothing but a headache and many nigths stressing out and crying and (my new favorite) waking up due to nightmares so sleep is even difficult.
Post # 3
If your only 3 months in and so much is going wrong I would maybe consider eloping! Good luck and hope it all gets better for you soon.
Post # 4
Oh no!! I’m sorry, that’s no good! Wedding planning is supposed to be fun, especially early on! Just try to enjoy it, even if that means eloping 🙂
Post # 5
Is there a reason you can’t wait longer to have the wedding? Remember this is supposed to be a celebration of your love, not just the end of a stressful year. And from my personal perspective, elopement or a very small destination wedding is the way to go.
Post # 6
We could wait longer, but we really want to start a family which can happen after the wedding, at least for me, that is what I am comfortable with. It is a very stressful process, but I guess this is how is it going to be. I hope that it will become easier as more and more things are checked off the list and hopefully (corss your fingers) more and more things begin to go smoothly and in the right direction.
As for an elopement…that is out of the question. Mr. Day is a huge romantic and really wants a wedding. Plus he is the only child of his parents and it would just be very hard for them if they did not have their only son have a wedding, that is more stress that I do not even want to consider.
Post # 7
I’m sorry that you’re so stressed! I think that it is fairly common… thats why the Centers for Disease and Control created this guide to healthy wedding planning – http://www.cdc.gov/Features/HealthyWedding/. It’s not a joke!
First, take a few days off from planning. Spend some time with your FH. Relax.
Second, I would buy a wedding planning binder or download one. They really help you see all the details that go into weddings.
Then, I would finalize a realistic budget. There are lots of money saving tips listed on the Bee.
Post # 8
You are not alone- I’ve found that since I’ve been engaged and had some family drama it feels like I belong to a “club” and I’ve started to hear wedding horror stories from friends/coworkers/etc. I swear engagements/weddings make people crazy and sometimes the worst tantrums come from those who you’d least expect.
Take a break, relax, and concentrate on what you & your Fiance really want. Everyone will have an opinion but the only ones that matter belong to you & your Fiance.
Post # 9
I am sorry you are trying to plan a wedding without the financial support of your FI’s parents. Then u have the issue of your Fiance converting. I will pray for you because I know it must be stressful. If the money is not there and you are feeling too overwhelmed ask your Fiance if he would want to elope and have a big reception. Maybe elope and have a big wedding when you can afford it. I must admit I wanted to elope but my Fiance would not hear of it. I would have been content to go to Vegas with some white jeans and have some fun. This is my first and his second wedding. I wanted to elope I didnt want the stress but Fiance decided it would be better for me to have a wedding planner; because I would have given up a long time ago if I had to do it by myself.
Post # 10
OMG you tooooooooo?????
Lady, it sounds like we are living identical lives.
I’ve decided to shorten my guest list to only have people I absolutely LOVE, and made the decision to forget about everyone but me and my hubby to be.. The day is for US, so that is who we will accomodate, no one else.
I like to tell myself I’ve planned the wedding so far in advance so that all this drama can be done early, and hopefully the New Year there will be nothing and no ONE left to stress us out.