Post # 16
I had a bad feeling they were older when I clocked the ’89’ on her username
Whilst I believe that it’s for each couple to decide what is cheating or unacceptable in their relationship, I also don’t really feel that adding loads of random girls is the kind of behaviour that screams “ready to commit to one woman for the rest of my life”. It moves a bit closer to “touching” than “looking”.
Post # 17
The only person I know that has unfriended their boyfriend in a Facebook fight was my then 14 year old cousin 😳 I think unfriending him is completely immature and his reaction to it was even worse.
I don’t think you guys are a good match or mature enough to be getting married, sorry bee.
Post # 18
Run, do not walk from this man. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Post # 19
You are not immature, he is disrespectful.
Post # 20
First, following so many people on social media is absurd and says a lot about a person. I wouldn’t want to do anything with a man lurking on pics of some women and being a fanboy. Social media is NOT for that.
Second, unfriending him was a dick move, but so was calling off the wedding.
I don’t know what you’re doing, bee. He obviously didn’t start following 300 girls in a day.
Post # 21
Who would want to remain in a relationship that can so easily be thrown away over a fight over facebook. OP needs to move on.
Post # 22
I’d also find his liking&following hundreds of random “hot girls” in our city’s network to be unacceptable. Your unfriending him could be seen as breaking up, too, but I don’t see it as such. He kept a few hundred back up plans in his queue and cried foul on a fair ball. Keep the ring, keep your composure, take a few days or weeks to consider the matter. I suspect that soon you’ll view this as a blessing in disguise. Just my $0.02.
Cheer up, Bee!
Post # 23
im sorry hes way older than me and your nearly my age… you BOTH need to seriously mature a lot befor getting married because this is how 15 year olds act and they aren’t allowed to marry (in most places) for a reason
Post # 24
While I get what you were thinking when unfriending him, you should have probably discussed it prior to doing it. Such as a “hey, I think our face books should be separate because…”.
However, the fact he was friending 300 women in the area should have had you going “bye Felipe” real fast. If not then, definitely now after he called off the wedding in the manner he did.
Focus on living your life. Do some things for you. Don’t settle for someone you aren’t on the same wavelength with. There are plenty of better suited people out there. Life is too short to spend time on one being a creeper on Facebook.
Post # 25
36 yr old man following hundreds of “hot” women he doesn’t know on social media, breaks up with you via text when you call him out on that….sounds like a real winner OP. I would count your lucky stars that this has ended.
Post # 26
This is going to sound totally sexist, but I think it is creepy/weird when guys are totally into Facebook…I also question how much time he spends on Facebook if he is following/friending that many random people…a 36 year old man should be a little more engrossed in his job, and a little less consumed by Facebook…
Post # 27
Ew. Sounds like boyfriend is keeping his options open (friending young hot girls at his age, he sounds like a gross old dinosaur) and trying to emotionally manipulate you by calling off the wedding. Though I don’t typically unfriend people just because we had an argument, the last time I did that was after I broke up with a guy.
Post # 28
He is creepy as hell with that FB activity, and yes it was immature to defriend the person who should be your best friend…
I would just let him cancel the engagement and move on with life!
Post # 29
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Trust is the most important thing in a marriage.
It sounds like you don’t trust him because 1) he lives in a different city and 2) he gives you reasons not to.
Then he threatens you with breaking off your engagement!? Oh hell no. That is not something you hold above someone’s head. Cancel the engagement and save yourself time, money and lots of heartache (and a future divorce).
Post # 30
I’m also shocked by the ages. I won’t judge on you being immature because you can have whatever personality you want but it proves you both are not ready for marriage. To be honest I thought you were a teen, which is not good. Adults have face to face conversations and resolve issues without throwing tantrums. He seems worse although he’s older.