Post # 1
I know this seems silly but I have maid of honors. I did this first off because I am extremely close to four girls who have been my friends for 8 years and I could not pick between any of them. I also viewed this as a way to take financial responsibility off of one person. They are all okay with the arrangement as is my Fiance. The only people who are iffy on it are our mothers. Does it seem so bad to have this many maid of honors?
Post # 3
no! its your wedding? if its ok with you thats all that matters!
Post # 4
@Steffy: Do what works best for you
Post # 5
Why not? Have as many maids of honor as you want! Not silly at all.
Post # 7
I’m not sure why you wouldn’t just call them all bridesmaids. Four maids of honour kind of defeats the purpose of the title, in much the same way that you wouldn’t have four groomsmen all called “best man”.
Post # 8
Well are you having regular bridesmaids too? If you are then I can understand taking the financial responsibility off of one person. I think you should do whatever you want. I am having two maids of honor and that’s it.
Post # 9
I think it’s kinda strange, it would make much more sense to have bridesmaids and just not designate any of them as the maid of honor. But if you decide to go this route, on your programs and things it should be worded ‘maids of honor’, not ‘maid of honors’.
Post # 10
I thought the point of having a maid of honour was to honour one person. Personally I would rather have all bridesmaids instead of 4 maids of honour if you can’t pick.
Post # 11
To me it says”bride is afraid of hurting anyone’s feelings”. I would just have them all be bridesmaids as certainly the traditional “honor” of the Maid/Matron of Honor position has not been assigned to any of them.
Post # 12
I would also just call them all bridesmaid…the honor is diluted when there are 4 maids of honor, IMO.
Post # 13
The MOH’s dont feel as if they are dishonored considering there are four more girls standing up. Technically one of them is a matron of honor so I have three maid of honors. I think the fact that the girls are honored and are having fun planning together is what matters most.
Post # 14
Personally I dont get it if there is more than one moh, because what happens when it comes to speeches and toasts and the order and in they will walk in etc.. to me 4 maids of honor is the same as having no moh at all
Post # 15
Personally, I think it is silly to have multiple maids of honor because it eliminates the entire purpose. The only exception I make to this is if someone has 2 sisters they don’t want to choose between.
Honestly, I think you ought to pick one or call them all BMs.
Post # 16
It seems like most of the replies you’ve gotten have stated that 4 MOHs seems odd and I agree. I would either pick one or have them all be bridesmaids.
Your last reply though, it sounds as though you still want to have all four be MOHs – so go ahead and do that. You don’t need our approval to do that and I’m not sure why you asked if you are really set on doing 4 MOHs to start with. It’s your wedding so you can make that call 🙂
Just note as a PP said, the correct terminology is Maids of Honor.