Post # 1
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Newbee
I’m really regretting my venue 🙁
It’s a rustic barn setting for early November. Ceremony will be outside and reception inside. There are 3 rooms (all separate) and because of the amount of people we will try to have to fit guests/tables/dancing in all separate rooms. I think we might have jumped the gun with choosing this venue bc the cost was great but now I’m really regretting everything being so cut up. I’m almost at the point of wanting to look for a new venue but the save the dates went out already and i know its too late 🙁 plus my FH doesnt want to lose the deposit money, so he wont like that…
We were going to have dancing on the bottom floor of the barn and the tables in the 2 upstairs rooms for dinner. dancing would take place after dinner. At first we didnt think it would be a big deal being in separate rooms but now I’m really panicking of having enough space and what people will think of being separate and a separate dance floor…will people even dance? ugh 🙁
I’m even thinking of possibly doing everything (reception as well) outdoors…there is a beautiful patio but tenting not allowed so weather would have to cooperate..and nov can be in the 50’s 🙁
Im just so bummed and if anyone can offer support to help me not to freak out i would really appreciate it!
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I would stick with your venue. Honestly, on your big day you will be so happy to be married and enjoy spending the time with family and friends. It will all work out 🙂
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Well depending where you live November may be too cool for an outdoor wedding.
However I think the best thing to do before speaking to your venue, is one figure out if you afford to lose the money you put down, two if you find another venue ask them if they be willing to give it back if they booked another wedding.
November isn’t as popular for fall weddings like sept and oct so it might be easy to find anther venue. Make calls and ask if the dates are available go seem them in person.
If you can afford it, and find a better venue go for it! If not perhaps working with your venue to see how you can work with the space better. Good luck!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Talk to your venue first… if they agree to rfund your money if they can find someone else to book your date, then your free to look for a different venue. Also, just because save the dates went out doen’t mean you can’t change the venue (you still have to send invitations which will have the new venu information).
Anyway, I think if you really hate it that much, you should act now. Otherwise maybe take anothe rlook at your venue and envision how you’d like for it to look with the decor and ambiance. By the time of your wedding, people will be having so much fun it won’t matter that the rooms are broken up.
Also, I saw a wedding on whose wedding is it anyway where the ceremony/dancing and recpetion were broken up in different sections of the venue. Ceremony was in the ‘chapel’ and they did a turn to make it the dance floor and for cake cutting. Reception was outside. It’ll be fine, I am sure.
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