Post # 1
Me and my bf just got engaged recently but we have decided not to get married until 2016. I’m 20 and he is 22 and we are both still at university. I still have another 3 years of studying left which is why I don’t want to get married soon.
We both know that weddings cost a lot of money especially if you want an extravagant one, which we do want, although it worries me that 4 years is perhaps too long. I wouldn’t be able to pay for a huge wedding right now but worried that 4 years is maybe too long? I know that some people will think ‘well why do you have to have an expensive wedding?’ but its what we both want when the finances are looking good for us. Is it too early to start planning things now like venue and date so that we could spread the cost over 4 years? I do have a part time job which helps but also other things to pay for.
Was wondering if anyone had any type of advice they could give me and also this will be my first wedding therefore I have no idea at all with where to start!
Post # 3
Good for you for wanting to wait until you are done with school and have saved up money I think thats great!!! No need to rush…. You will have the wedding of your dreams. You really dont have to do too much now just save all you can and graduate 🙂 You can think about the kind of wedding you would want, outdoor, church destination…. you can get and collect lots of ideas! but nothing you really need to start on!
Congrats and good luck!
Post # 4
My Fiance and I are 20 and we are having a 3 year long engagement (to the day) due to completing university. I think you’ll probably get some flack because “Why bother getting engaged”. However I felt getting engaged was important to us because we are far more serious than boyfriend/girlfriend, we live together, and have many future plans. You need to do what feels best for you. You will have been together a long time before you tie the knot, which is great! Anyways, best of luck 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
We had a 2 year engagement for the exact same reason– we were planning on 4, but got better jobs than we were planning so we moved up the date.
My brother was engaged for over 5 years before they got married (together for 10).
There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement, if anything it’ll help you apprecieate this time even more.
Post # 6
if you love eachother, nothing is too long.
My hubby and i have waited and waited… contantly putting other finances first, time for this and for that.
I think its smart to focus on your school finances… and you never know in 4 years your plans for an extravagant wedding could change.
Mine did, all i want now is a SMALL destination wedding.
If you are worried what people will think… send a save the date with
“yes were engaged, save the date 2016”
then you dont have to worry about all the gossip of waiting .
Post # 7
Congratulations! While a 4-year engagement would drive me nuts (I’d be too antsy & impulsive! ), I commend you for waiting until you are done with school and a little more financially stable.
I’m not quite sure how things are in Ireland, but in the U.S. many venues won’t let you book until 1-2 years out. So either way you may have to wait. I would also wait incase plans change over the next 4 years—maybe you LOVE a venue today, put down a payment, and then in 2 years a new venue is built that you HAVE to get married in.
I know I changed my mind a million times in my 1 year 2 month engagement. It’s hard not to as you find new ideas/trends and your tastes change a bit. I would wait until the year or so before to start making solid plans. But, you could always start collecting ideas now!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone 🙂
I feel a lot more sure in myself that 4 years is right for both of us. We’ve been together 5 years already which is why we wanted to take the next step. Besides, we can still celebrate with the engagement party! 🙂 and who knows my mind could change about venues and dresses so I think I will just enjoy being engaged and focus on my studies for now 🙂