Post # 1
This year i am celebrating my 40th birtdhay and one month later i am getting married (hopefully, as the latest news about my future mother-in-law are really bad..).
The thing is..i can’t immagine my father walk me down the aisle! Sounds..really weird and not me..i am an adult woman, who left the nest ages ago. I have an excellent relationship with my parents and when i was little i adored my father..then we grew apart, don’t know exactly why but it does hurt. Anyway..marriage is my choice. My adult, mature choice and desire. It doesn’t make any sense to me that he walks me down the aisle! I can picture myself holding my little girl’s hand (the ring bearer), yes but there’s another thought..i asked my mum about this and she said (after saying she was miles away from thinking about the marriage..) she was sure he would burst with pride..humm..what now??
Post # 3
My father passed away about 18 years ago & even though I’m an encore bride, I will be 43 by the time I marry again.
My Fiance and I have discussed who will be walking me down the aisle, but I’m still not decided. My oldest son will be 21 by then, and I have asked him to walk me down the aisle, which he said he will.
The other option is to meet Fiance at the door so we can walk together. What you could also do is hold your daughter’s hand and let your Fiance walk down the aisle towards you as you walk towards him, that way you only walk half the way and the rest together.
There are lots of options open to you (you can also walk alone), but just remember that at the end of the day you must do what will make you feel comfortable, not what’s going to suit everyone else.
Good luck. I hope the decision becomes easier.
Post # 4
As @QueenKez: said, you could walk down the aisle with your Future husband. It’s the orthodox tradition & represents the spouses as equal parts of the union. Another option is to walk down alone: My mother & I both did at our respective weddings. I see it as a sign of independence & choice. I don’t think you should feel obliged to have someone give you away.
By The Way you’re so gorgeous! You remind me of my mom when she was young 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve done a lot of thought about this topic myself. I’m 53, and this is my first wedding. I have no children, no nieces or nephews. My mother is deceased and my father is very ill, he will not be able to walk me down the aisle or attend the wedding (I’m getting married in MD, he’s in NY).
I have 2 older sisters, we’re going to go down the aisle and they’re going to give me away.
It has been so hard doing all of this planning without a mother, but to spend the rest of my life growing old with someone after being single my entire life is a blessing.
Post # 6
I am not a commodity to be given away by my father. I’m an adult woman with two children. If anyone is “giving me away” it is my kids. I have not yet decided how I will walk down the aisle. I will either walk holding my kids (six and four) hands or they will go ahead of me holding hands and I will walk alone. My dad can walk with my mom.
Post # 7
Oh my! now u made me blush !! thank you 🙂
Post # 8
You’re so right!!!!!! Congratulations!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’m 40, and I don’t view it as my father “giving me away”- I view it as the most important man in my family escorting me to start my new family with Fiance. Part of that may be with how Fiance talked to my Dad- asked for his blessing for us to get married (important to both me and my Dad that Fiance had asked), not permission.
I feel very fortunate that my father is still with us today, and I am very excited to share that traditional part of the wedding day with him (plus he looks so dapper in a tux!)
Post # 11
I think that I will have my son walk me down the aisle and then stand on my side with his sisters. He’ll be 17 by then and I think it will make him proud and give a special feeling as a ‘man’.
My parents will be there and my FH did talk to my dad before asking but at the same time I have been independent for years and this is important for me and my kids.