Post # 1
I’m a 40 year old, never been married, just recently engaged. I’ve been looking at a bunch of dress sites, and am absolutely disheartened at the prospect of finding a dress that will make me feel and look beautiful on my big day. I am plus size and 40. I have no desire to look like a bratwurst in my wedding pictures! I want a beautiful dress, but I cannot find anything with sleeves, or that isn’t made for a 20 year old, or someone who is trying to be Cinderella. I’m happy for you if that’s what you want, but it isn’t what I want. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions of websites where I can get some new ideas? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Without knowing your body shape and how you are built I dont know of any specific dresses to recommend. However sleeves have been successfully added to many a dress. Have you thought about a vintage dress? Like from the fifties? My dear friend who got married at 45 wore one and it was darling.
Post # 4
Agree with PP.
Sleeves and bolero jackets are super easy to add to something you like.
What sort of style do you think you like? Silk? chiffon? Corset? Flowy?
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Post # 6
First I have to ask…what do you mean by “looking like a brautwurst”?? Are you saying you dont want anything fitted? I am plus size, and trust me…ball gowns will only make you look bigger. I would recommend an A line or fitted gown.
If you want to go with sleeves, I highly recommend the “Bliss” line from Bonny Bridal. These dresses have sleeves without looking stuffy. Click on this link:
Post # 7
Welcome to the Bee and congrats on your engagement!
I’m a 42yr old first time bride and I guess I’m on the edge of plus size at size 16. What I’m wearing may be to Cinderella for you but there are a lot of choices out there. Take a deep breath. I’m sure you will find what you are looking for.
Here is what I’m wearing.
It has a corset back which is very slimming.
I am wearing something similar to this to cover my arms and for modesty.
There are lots or choices out there for sleves and cover ups. Just start google searching and you will be amazed at what’s out there. Good luck!
Post # 8
Thanks for your suggestions! I feel better already! Just having a small moment of panic… I guess I can’t be the only one with wedding related freak outs. Oh, and you’re dresses are gorgeous!
Post # 9
I love the vintage look of Nataya. It might not be your thing but take a look
Post # 10
What kinds of dresses do you like? You may want to surf in the 30 and 40 something forums for dress ideas…
I like this E How Video on dress picking tips for an older bride: http://www.ehow.com/video_5539043_wedding-dress-ideas-older-brides.html
Post # 11
@Keisha In Love: I am an older bride and I do not agree with the video.
OP – Please pop over to the 40 boards and peruse the dress posts – you will see all sorts of dresses and styles that we are choosing. You need to find a dress that you love that fits your vision of the special day that you want to have. This is your wedding – wear what you love.
I found that the dresses that were appropriate for older brides made me look well older – I have a good figure and do not need to cover up. So go try on things – pick your venue and your theme and then make sure you fall in love with a dress that is you.
Not for an older bride but you for the beautiful person you are inside and out – and let us know how the search goes!!!
ETA – I rewatched that video and thought it was very condescending and sterotypical of older brides 🙁 ugh
Post # 12
@unixfairy: I just watched that video too. UGGGG! 🙁
Post # 13
I was 56 and plus sized on my wedding day, and I found a dress! David’s Bridal tends to have sample dresses in all sizes. Also, Google “modest wedding dresses” if you want a bit more cover-up on the arms.
Post # 14
I am in my 40s and plus sized also, and this is what I wore:
I also had trouble finding plus-size samples to try. I originally wanted a full-blown ball gown, but they made me look ginormous. Like one of the pps suggested, an A line (which is what my gown is) would be a good choice. However, I also really encourage you to at least try on a Fit-and-Flare style. I did not even consider it, and there are times now when I really wish I had at least had the opportunity to see myself in one.
Post # 15
I had my dress made by someone on etsy and I’m thrilled with the results. Try sketching out what you’d like then try to find it.