- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
OK, so my fiance never thought he would be going through this so close to the wedding, but nevertheless, he is!
Months ago, Fiance decided on three of his good friends to be his groomsmen (we originally decided we would each have just 1 person each standing up for us, BUT he didn’t want to have to decide between his three closest friends, so he asked all of them). He never even asked any of them to be his best man because of the same reason.
We are having a small, casual wedding, and Fiance decided that he would like the groomsmen to just wear a shirt, tie, and dresspants. He told them how much their outfits would cost (less than $70 and they would own their attire), and asked if they could all get the money to him along with their sizes, so that he could order/buy the attire. Not a single one has responded. And that was after he tried to contact them all in the first place to ask what everyone’s budget was (he had to repeatedly contact each of them to even get that response).
Now, its 45 days before the wedding, we still have not heard back from any of them. I even sent them all (including my side of the bridal party), a friendly facebook message (we’re all friends) about the wedding, our rehearsal, and reminded the guys to get their info to Fiance ASAP so that we could order/buy the attire in time to return/exchange out any sizes that do not fit.
Fiance is hurt, and of course, I’m hurt for him (and a little stressed that their attire isn’t taken care of yet). He is seriously thinking of cutting all of his groomsmen, and having my brother (who is currently my Man of Honor) stand up for him (I only had two on my side, so I would still have my Maitron of Honor). I told Fiance it is completely his choice, and to follow his heart, but to make a decision soon. He is tired of repeatedly contacting his/our “friends” and being ignored.
What do you think he should do? Should he continue to hound them, and be ignored? Or should he just cut them loose? If you think he should “fire” his groomsmen, how do you think he should word it (he is most scared of this part).
Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading!