Post # 17
Oh, I bet that sucks to see so many declines.. I totally expect MANY declines, probably fi’s entire half of the guest list, as all of them would have to fly, rent a car and then a hotel room. It’s just too expensive.
Post # 18
I WISH my No’s would come back sooner rather than later. So far we’ve had only 2 people decline even though we know it will be more…but I wish they would RSVP already so I can stop stressing!
Post # 19
yeah we’re the same, almsot everyone has to travel, but that would have been true no matter where we had the wedding. First thing we did was a draft guest list, I wrote down where everyone lived, no matter where we had it, about 75% would have to travel. We had 4 location options. We finally decided that where we live makes the most sense because 1 – we live here, so much easier for planning, 2 – it’s a better place to make a vacation out of than the other options, 3 – it’s cheaper to fly here than my hometown, a lot of people can drive here instead of fly as well, 4 – this location makes it possible for the largest number of grandparents to attend (there are 2 that are iffy, but I’m crossing my fingers).
Post # 20
Ugh, I feel your pain. We’re at a 53% decline rate right now. We haven’t gotten back ALL of the RSVPs yet, (we get 2 or 3 a day) but it’s still nerve racking.
It’s mostly my FI’s side though, because they would have to travel 5 hours to make it to the wedding, and a lot of them are just friends-of-the-family(his actual family only consists of his mom, 2 brothers, their SOs, and his uncle.)
I’m hoping most of my family says yes, otherwise I feel like it’s going to be a really awkward event (we’ve invited 62 people total).
Post # 21
We’re expecting a high decline rate as well. A weekday wedding (though its monday of 4th july weekend) and have family in CA, FL, LA, and MA. Very few guests actually live in CO but its okay because atleast we can say we invited everyone and thus no one could be insulted for not getting an invite. We invited 200 guests and are thinking we’ll have around 80-100.
Post # 22
The same thing happened with us…don’t worry, the yes’s will come! We got a bunch of no’s in the beginning because people had definite commitments and knew that right away. The yes’s on my side of the family dragged because many of them took for granted they were coming and never bothered to send the card back.