(Closed) Not age appropiate?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ll be 40 in a few weeks and I have 3 bridesmaids over the age of 40.  It matters to me NONE what their appearance is and I am just thrilled to have them involved in my special day. 

Your mistake was asking her to be involved without asking her to specifically play a certain role.  You can try to talk to her, tell her you’d rather her do something else, but honestly, I’d probably be insulted.

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am having my baby sister, who is 41 be a BM/MOH, but I am calling her a lady of honor, instead of a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor. I really don’t think age should be a factor. It is really only a matter of who means the most to you. I agree with @milesbella: that I would also be insulted and I think your friend would be too.

Post # 5
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A little bit off the topic….But on my 19 years old cousin’s wedding my 45years old mom fought for a bride’s bouquet with my cousin’s girlsfriends in their 20s…and actually got it. And then got married in 6 months….I mean sometimes older ladies can be awkward at weddings….

Post # 6
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well my opinion probably does not count because I turned 50 the day after our wedding. But my Maid/Matron of Honor was 49. Here’s a pic of us “old biddies”.

Post # 8
584 posts
Busy bee

If you’ve already asked her to be a bridesmaid, I wouldn’t rescind the offer! Just do what you’re comfortable with (what would you do if you weren’t concerned about other peoples’ opinions?). If she’s a good friend and you want her standing with you, age shouldn’t matter.

Post # 9
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s quite common for guys to have their fathers as their best men and no one thinks that looks strange or is unusual. 

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