- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
I’ll be 40 in a few weeks and I have 3 bridesmaids over the age of 40. It matters to me NONE what their appearance is and I am just thrilled to have them involved in my special day.
Your mistake was asking her to be involved without asking her to specifically play a certain role. You can try to talk to her, tell her you’d rather her do something else, but honestly, I’d probably be insulted.
I am having my baby sister, who is 41 be a BM/MOH, but I am calling her a lady of honor, instead of a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor. I really don’t think age should be a factor. It is really only a matter of who means the most to you. I agree with @milesbella: that I would also be insulted and I think your friend would be too.
A little bit off the topic….But on my 19 years old cousin’s wedding my 45years old mom fought for a bride’s bouquet with my cousin’s girlsfriends in their 20s…and actually got it. And then got married in 6 months….I mean sometimes older ladies can be awkward at weddings….
Well my opinion probably does not count because I turned 50 the day after our wedding. But my Maid/Matron of Honor was 49. Here’s a pic of us “old biddies”.
@milesbella: Yes, that was my mistake. I was never into the whole wedding thing until I got engaged and I was so happy and excited that of course I asked her to be a part of it. It wasn’t until I started doing the research that I realized that I could’ve given her another dutie – still be part of the ceremony but just doing something else. It’s ok, I’m not going to take it back at this point cause i’ll probably get offended too if I was her. I forgot to mention, she’s not working either. But she says she’ll be fine paying for the dress, shoes, etc…
If you’ve already asked her to be a bridesmaid, I wouldn’t rescind the offer! Just do what you’re comfortable with (what would you do if you weren’t concerned about other peoples’ opinions?). If she’s a good friend and you want her standing with you, age shouldn’t matter.
It’s quite common for guys to have their fathers as their best men and no one thinks that looks strange or is unusual.
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