- 8 years ago
So here is a short story on us.
we met over the internet 5 years ago after i came out of a destressing relationship and i left that person wasnt ready to settle so we just chatted for 4 months, we eventually met one night and he didnt go home for 4 days, we didnt have a sexual relationship for about 2 months.
after 3 months of being with each other, we loved each others company and talked all the time, i was asleep one day and he whispered he could cry as i look beautiful when i sleep, i woke up when he said this he then carried on and said to me those three words.
1 week later
he asked me to move in with him, which i agreed too.
2 years later
I fell pregnant and was devistated as i was only 20 and he was still 19, he became distant through out the pregnancy and was not very supportive, i put it down to him being nervous about being a father.
9 months later lol
we had our son, and he is fantastic with him and appologised for being a git whilst i was pregnant and should have looked after me more.
1 year later
he said he would like to marry me in a couple of years time so we decided summer 2009, and he said h will leave me to plan as he is rubbish at things like that, i respected that.
whilst planning our wedding family became to involved and stressed me out alot, a very close family member on his side decided to say things like “can i not be your maid of honour??” she asked me more than 5 times and in the end i said no i have my best friend, i asked him if she mentions this again next time can you ay something? he said no just ignore her.
well as you can guess it carried on and she became intrusive of our plans and would say your ideas are ok but what about this?
well 3 months before our big day he came home looking…..well like something had gone wrong and he seemed nervous, i thought he had a rubbish day at work and want to get something off his chest, he turned orund and said im not ready to get married and im not sure i love you anymore.
he spent one night away and came back saying he was an ideot he shouldnt have said he doesnt love me because he does, but still doesnt want to get married.
We are now coming upto a year of our should have been our 1st wedding anniversary, and we have now been together 5 years, things went back to how we were before but i get upset every now and again, i still have my dress flowers bridesmaid stuff everything but he said he doesnt want me to get rid of them as he knows i will be upset to look at them.
I want him too feel the same way i do, i dont want to get married for the sake of it but because we want to be one family and enjoy each other, now this person who wouldnt leave us alone when we were getting married has been with a guy for 6 months and they are getting married next year, ive been waiting 5 years what shall i do?
I however am giving him till next may, he doesnt know this but what i have told him is if he hasnt proposed by the secret date or mentioned timescales i will be asking him and if he declines then im not going to waist my time.
I just wnat to know even if we dont get married in 5 years as long as he tells me he loes me proposes and givs me a timescale i will be happy with that.
P.s so very glad there is a forum like this we are all in the same boat.