Post # 1
Hi bees! I just wanted to say thank you to all the people on here who have posted about the five love languages. SO and I were having a bit of trouble, which is HIGHLY unusual for us, and both of us had been putting off discussing it out of fear and straight up denial. We had both decided that we had been much happier together before we moved, so after that I spent all day wracking my brain to try and figure out what we had been doing differently (and I’m sure it was on his mind, too).
I was so scared I made a secondary account with the idea of posting anonymously for advice (which I ended up not having to do) and I started browsing the forums and after countless mentions of that book, I got it and read it. Let me just say, it’s literally changed my entire outlook and opened my eyes to things we were TOTALLY not understanding about each other, despite being together 5.5 years. I was so scared we were going to break up (although we still love each other deeply, I am a very paranoid person and with any threat to us I get into crisis mode) and now I feel so much hope. I discovered that our primary AND secondary love languages are both different, which is why we were basically miscommunicating our love.
SO, skeptical as he is, has miraculously agreed to read it too, and I cannot wait to discuss it all with him. I’ve already jumpstarted “speaking” his love languages and he already seems so much happier.
If you’re in this type of situation, I highly recommend picking up this book. It’s a short read and can do worlds of good and fill you up with so much hope!
Post # 2
I often talk of this book. It makes a difference. Sometimes I struggle with knowing my love language. I used to know it was totally words of affirmation. When I first met my Darling Husband, I thought it was touch. Now I realize it could be quality time. Blah! I guess I need to reread the book!!!
Post # 3
We are both physical touch/words of affirmation. We take time every day to just hang out in each other’s arms and chat. It totally recharges our batteries! I know the book was a little cheesy, but what I took from it has been awesome!
Post # 4
I recently ordered this book for my hubs because one of his New Years resolutions was to read 2 books a month. I purchased the kindle edition for myself years ago. I think it offers great insight.
Post # 5
I’m so glad it helped you to u derstand your SO better! My Darling Husband and I read it together before we got married (per the recommendation of our officiant ) and we got a lot from it too! Sometimes I still tease and say “my love tank is empty” and he knows just what to do to make me feel more loved. My Darling Husband and I also have 2 different love languages so it’s helpful to know one anothers.
Post # 6
We found this book to be really helpful too. Now we each have a better idea of where the other is coming from, and it truly has strengthened our relationship. It also gave us a foundation from which to discuss these issues. It helps to be able to say “I know you’re telling me that you love me in your love language, and I appreciate that. But remember – we learned that I need to be loved in a different way than you do, so can we adjust a few things?” instead of getting frustrated because one of us isn’t feeling loved and the other doesn’t understand why.
We even try to make it a point to revisit the book for refreshers every now and then.