- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - UK
@oneofthesethings: Ho hum… this is my two cents…
1. Not everyone has to be there. Sure. But some people have big families, and elderly relatives who would love to see them get married before they die. Who are you to say that they should leave these people off the guest list? Weddings are all about family, and there’s a difference between the mad lady who wants to invite the guy who services her car and the family oriented bride who wants her terminally ill Great Ungle George to be at her wedding.
2. “You should not cook your own wedding food (if you expect the guests to actually eat.)…. Seriously, hire professionals.” This is more a comment on your personal cooking skills than anyone else’s! Some people are extremely good cooks, and some so called professionals are ****. My cousin made his own cake and cupcakes and they were AMAZING. I’m making my own buffet, cake and cupcakes because I honestly think that unless I paid a really top caterer to do it (and paid top dollar) then they couldn’t do any better than me. That sounds vain, but I’m a realist as to what I can and cannot do. On the flipside, I went to one wedding where they had silver service and the food was horrible. If I was the bride, and that was my menu, I would have cooked the lot two days before, frozen it, and got my friends to heat it up on the day. It would have honestly been a lot nicer.
3. “If every day brings another problem with your Future Mother-In-Law, your mom, bridesmaids, and/ or vendors, the problem is you. You’re a Bridezilla and you need to chill the F out.” Have you ever heard the old adage that sometimes they really are after you? Sure, there are some crazy bridezillas out there, but there are also people with alcoholic parents, terminally ill siblings, venues which lie to you, impose extra charges or go bankrupt, and bridesmaids who are wholly unreasonable. Some people have tough lives… read the boards here for some examples!
4. “You get one wedding. Not a quicky courthouse wedding, followed by a “real” wedding a month or a year later.” I’m not doing this either, but some people just want a nice party for their friends and relatives to enjoy. Why is that selfish? Everyone knows that the reception is really for the guests, right?
5. “There is no “great venue with a view” at a “reasonable price”.” Yes there is! Lots of people find this. You just have to look harder! And as to paying for excellence… sometimes excellence is cheap or free, sometiimes you get what you pay for, and sometimes you pay for diamonds and get glass. That’s life!
And as to the idea that this post will solve any problems you have… allow me to share a few of mine…
– I have a mentally ill mother.
– We are having a few “differences of religion” issues.
– We are having procedural issues with the Catholic church.
Your post doesn’t seem to fix any of those…