Post # 1
My 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up and I would like a gift to signify it. I feel like our first 5 years have been very special and I would like to celebrate with a new ring.
I currently only wear my wedding band. I honestly choose not to wear my engagement ring, because, to be frank, I don’t like it anymore. We got engaged (no proposal; more of a conversation) when we were 20 and I got to pick out my ring. My husband had very little involvement in picking out the ring; he only paid for it. Therefore, I don’t feel much emotional attachment to it and wouldn’t mind getting a new ring that has more significance. I guess I kind of want a proposal “do-over” with a new ring?
Here’s where I need your help: I have suggested to my husband that we buy each other anniversary gifts this year (which is something we don’t do) because I think 5 years is a big deal. I want to get him something, but he has told me that he does not want anymore physical “stuff”. But I still want something! How should I approach this without sounding selfish because I just want a gift?
Please don’t be afraid to tell me I’m being selfish. I know I should just be happy to have a loving husband, but a girl likes to be surprised with something special once in awhile.
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re being selfish at all! Five years is a big deal–I heard in many ways these are the most difficult years of marriage, as well as the most fulfilling.
Since you don’t wear a wedding ring or your engagement ring, why not ask for a 5 stone ring featuring diamonds or gemstones for you 5 year anniversary gift? You could pick the gemstone of the month you were married (or met, or whichever is just your favorite) if you don’t want to splurge on an all diamond ring. You could even wear it as a RHR if you’d rather not have anything on your left ring finger.
I’m sure he’ll be understanding since it sounds like you aren’t materialistic and haven’t celebrated a wedding anniversary with gifts.
Post # 4
the 5 year anniversary is the sapphire anniversary! I plan on asking for a big fat sapphire and diamond anniversary ring for my right hand when ours gets here 🙂
Post # 5
@lulu_honey: Thanks for the suggestion! I do actually wear my wedding band, which is a 10mm yellow gold band. I absolutely love my wedding ring! I wanted matching wedding bands, so he also has a 10mm yellow gold band. However, I’m ready for an upgrade. I really like the stackable look that many women have on their ring finger.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s selfish that you want a gift, but if your H doesn’t want to do physical gifts maybe you should be thoughtful of that.
Have you tried talking to him about it all? He might not care too much about not getting a gift himself, but would be completely fine with you getting a gift.
I guess I just kind of feel like if you aren’t really exchanging gifts, what’s the point?
Post # 7
Oh, I misread! I think a stacked looked would be great! There are lots of great and affordable eternity ring options that would look lovely next to a plain band 🙂
Post # 8
A lovely (and affordable!) option would be moissanite! I loooove this five stone trellis ring!
Post # 9
Not selfish at all girl you get your ring and you enjoy every second of the experience!!!
Post # 10
OP: Post your wedding band so we can see? 🙂
Post # 11
I think this is a great idea! I dont think you are being selfish.
I really like @6598731ssfse3:‘s idea with the 5 stone band.
Post # 12
Not selfish at all.
Get him an experience if he doesn’t want “stuff”! Tickets to a game for you two, a helicopter ride, motorcycle lessons, etc.
Post # 13
I don’t think it sounds selfish at all. Why don’t you pick out a ring and run it by him? Do you have anything in mind? Or a budget? I don’t think I could resist doing a little window shopping. Have you heard of Hearts On Fire? They have some amazing diamond rings but their stuff can be expensive 🙁
Post # 14
I don’t necessarily think that it’s selfish to want something new but I’m not generally a fan of dictating the gifts that people give you. If you casually mention it to your husband and he takes the bait then awesome but I wouldn’t pressure him into getting you this ring. Doing so wouldn’t be any different than your initial engagement ring that you don’t feel sentimental towards. Sure, maybe he’ll have more involvement choosing this ring but you still would have pushed him to get it which kind of defeats the purpose if you ask me.
ETA: As for his gift, I personally prefer experiences over tangible items when it comes to anniversaries (like concert tickets, tickets to see his favorite team play, take him skydiving or bungee jumping if that’s something he’s always wanted to do, go on vacation, etc…). This October will be our first anniversary and we’re going to Mexico for a week.